Good Wednesday to everyone!
Over the last couple of years of doing this blog, what has become very evident is that when people suffer from infidelity, every situation is so different, but somehow yet the same.
Most of us never in our wildest imagination would have ever thought that our spouses would have cheated on us. We thought that when we said our vows that it was an iron-clad promise to be true to one another until death.
Perhaps as a couple you may have even discussed at some point what you would do if either of you cheated on the other. Maybe you said it was a deal breaker and divorce would be the only option. If you never discussed it openly, maybe you had the notion in your mind that if your spouse ever cheated on you, you would be out the door.
Eventually the unspeakable happened and now you find yourself a victim of your spouse’s affair.
I venture to guess that when we first (or ever) thought about this possibility we didn’t consider every single circumstance of staying together versus divorce or separation. And let’s face it, there are a lot of issues that need to be considered.
Infidelity rocks us to the core and we are in so much shock at first that it’s hard to gather all of our emotions so that we can logically evaluate what we should do.
Today our discussion will center on the predicament that you are now (or were) faced with…
What was your position on cheating within your marriage prior to the affair versus the reality of what you actually did once you discovered the affair?
Prior to the affair, did you maintain the stance that your marriage would end if there was infidelity? What actually happened and why?
Or, did you maintain all along that if your spouse ever cheated, you would stay with him/her and try to work through things? What actually happened and why?
Please remember to respond to one another in the comment section below.
Linda & Doug