Resources for Self-Improvement and Change
Surviving infidelity typically requires personal growth and change. We want to help you succeed.
For some of you, it might seem that it's too soon, and your emotions are too raw to even consider that self-improvement, inspiration and personal change are important - much less relevant.
However, being several years removed from our own struggle with Infidelity, we can attest to the notion that this whole mess changes a person - typically involuntarily.
As hard as it might be to fathom for some right now, it's an opportunity as well. And how you take care of yourself and strengthen your mind and body are extremely important as you move forward.
It’s incredible how your attitude towards anything can flow into all areas of life
In his best-selling book, What to Say When You Talk to Yourself, Shad Helmstetter makes a very profound claim about the importance of how we look at things and talk to ourselves.
"After examining the philosophies, the theories, and the practiced methods of influencing human behavior, I was shocked to learn the simplicity of that one small fact: You will become what you think about most; your success or failure in anything, large or small, will depend on your programming – what you accept from others, and what you say when you talk to yourself.
It is no longer a success theory; it is a simple but powerful fact. Neither luck nor desire have the slightest thing to do with it. It makes no difference whether we believe it or not. The brain simply believes what you tell it most. And what you tell it about you, it will create. It has no choice.”
Can you see how maybe this stuff could also pertain to your own life? Your happiness? Achieving your own goals? Losing those last 10 pounds? Finally running that 5K race? And yes, even recovering and healing from infidelity?
We firmly believe that your attitude has a huge impact on every aspect of your life.
Only when you put the responsibility of your results solely on your own shoulders will you give yourself the best chance of achieving them.
Can you see how this might be beneficial when it comes to your own situation? We challenge you to try!
Featured Resources for Self-help and Personal Change
The Affair Recovery Movement
Guiding You Through the 5 Stages of Affair Recovery
What we've done is taken the 5 Stages of Affair Recovery and created a private member's only area where a person can utilize the massive amount of available tools and resources to better move through these 5 stages - and ultimately recover and heal.
It doesn't matter what stage you are in or whether you are healing alone or not.
Empower Me! - From Devastation to Restoration
A program that includes concrete tools to change your mind and change your life.
This is a multi-media program and it follows a logical path that is healing. The content is delivered in a way that gives you just the information you need for that day.
The information will be delivered over a 30-day period and includes content and exercises that will calm the mind and the body, help you gain clarity, and prepare you for the transformation that is required to rebuild your marriage, the life of your dreams - or both.
To talk to someone who has gone through what you're going through and who can listen and empathize with you is an incredibly powerful and valuable thing. It's not just sympathy - it's empathy - and it's irreplaceable.
Miracles can happen and massive healing can take place. You can recover from this. We know. We did it. Whether you are the victim or the unfaithful, perhaps you just need a friendly voice to talk to that has walked in your shoes and has experienced what you are going through.
Articles for Self-help and Change
Get in Touch with Your Own Power
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Codependency: Don’t Fall Into This Trap - 5 Steps to Code
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Change Within Before You Can Change Without
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10 Things that Can Help Build Your Self-Esteem Post D-day
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The Path to Introspection After an Affair
Introspection after an affair on the part of the unfaithful person is what starts the process for pe
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