Do you sometimes feel like you will NEVER recover from the affair?
The day you found out about the affair, your world was changed forever.
You have no words for how you feel, just the overwhelming feeling that you are no longer safe — the world is no longer safe — and something menacing awaits you around every corner.
You really wonder if you can ever get over this.
Your world as it is today...
In our opinion, there are 5 Stages of Affair Recovery. (More on these stages later)
Perhaps you have recently discovered the affair and can relate...
Maybe you're at the stage where the incredible pain, destroyed trust, massive doubt and uncertainty gnaw at you virtually every minute of every day.
The thoughts and images run through your head making sleep seem impossible, you don't feel like eating and you're crying almost all day long.
You're overwhelmed and you wonder what the heck to do (or not do) next.
Or maybe you're a little further along in the recovery process...
You have mostly good days, with a few bad days thrown in, you experience triggers from time to time, but it seems like you and your spouse are doing better.
Yet, you feel like there is little movement one way or the other with your recovery and healing.
You feel like there should be more; that you should be able to move on by now.
You might also be the person who had the affair...
You are confused and unaware of how you should be feeling and what you need to be doing to effectively help your spouse heal and rebuild your marriage.
In all of these scenarios, you're left wondering if you will ever be able to move on and get over this!
You feel hopeless. At times you just feel like giving up. Your future seems very uncertain.
And that’s not a very good place to be.
Your world as it could be...
As hard as it might be right now, imagine a different world for yourself. One where you feel confident and secure - in yourself and your marriage.
A world where you no longer feel overwhelmed by uncertainty or haunted by triggers, obsessive thoughts and memories. (Sure they are there, but the pain that was associated with them is no longer an issue.)
A world where you consider yourself healed. Recovered. Renewed.
The great news is that you are going to survive this experience.
In fact, after you come out the other side; you will thrive.
We are here to tell you that not only is healing possible, thriving is absolutely attainable.
But, being able to thrive will take time, working through grief, forgiveness, rebuilding trust and a host of other issues.
Healing and thriving is an active process, it is a choice, and best of all, it is in your power.
We are living examples of this.
We were in your shoes at one time
We're Linda and Doug, the founders of Emotional Affair Journey...
We have survived infidelity and our marriage is thriving.
And we managed this pretty much on our own - with very limited help or support from friends, family or therapists - which was certainly not a very easy thing to do.
In fact it was the hardest thing either of us have ever done. Period.
Having gone through the affair recovery and healing process ourselves, we more than likely have experienced pretty much the same things you’re going through right now.
In fact, at several points along the way we were spinning our wheels and going nowhere, not knowing what we should or shouldn’t do, say or feel.
Wondering if we were ever going to make any real recovery process, or if our marriage was going to survive. We were stuck. It was awful!
Perhaps you are feeling the same way right now.
And we want to help you.
Which of These Things Is Keeping You Stuck?
In our experience, there is typically one (or more) of the following general things that are holding you back from advancing through the 5 Stages of Affair Recovery...
Thing #1: Fear
Hey, we get it. Fear can absolutely paralyze you.
Now, there can be several things that you might fear that are holding you back.
The one we probably see more than any other is the fear of doing and/or saying the 'wrong' thing, thinking that you might wind up driving your spouse further away. (And this can be true whether you are the betrayed spouse of the unfaithful spouse.)
As a result, there is an endless cycle of wheel-spinning. Meanwhile, anxiety, anger and resentment continue to build up inside.
Thing #2: Overwhelm
When people are overwhelmed, they tend to either do the wrong things or they do nothing.
Infidelity often leaves a person feeling emotionally paralyzed/overwhelmed and unable to think clearly or take action.
Trust us when we tell you that taking action is vital.
Thing #3: A Self-Limiting Mindset
Again, this is totally understandable.
Suffering a betrayal as devastating as infidelity causes a person to think/believe that...
- They will never be able to get over this.
- They were responsible for their spouse's affair
- This is hopeless
- They can't go this alone
- They're not strong enough, etc.
Three different people. Three different problems. And we believe the solution is simple:
Step 1: Educate Yourself and Take Action
Step 2: Get the Proper Support
Now obviously, these are two very broad solutions. So let's break these down just a little bit.
When we say educate yourself, we're talking about learning the ins and outs of affairs and their dynamics, as well as what it takes to recover, heal and to have a strong relationship.
It means educating yourself for example, on ways to improve yourself; your way of life, your happiness, your confidence, your empowerment.
No mind games. No psychological mumbo-jumbo.
The key then is to take action based on the things that you learn.
And when we talk about getting the proper support, we are referring to not only receiving counseling or therapy, but also connecting with others who are either traveling the same road as you are, or who have already done so.
After all, there can be no better teacher than experience.
INTRODUCING THE AFFAIR RECOVERY MOVEMENT!
Back when we were struggling, we recall commenting to one another how great we thought it would be if there was a learning portal that included some sort of a support system...
A community where we could connect with other supportive people, while gaining knowledge and experienced guidance on how to heal and recover...
All without having to spend a ton of money on therapy, weekend intensives or endless hours searching the Internet for articles, forums, books, etc. (By the way, all of those things can be great options, but for us, money was an issue, and certainly time and patience were important considerations as well.)
Like a one-stop recovery center!
So, we figured that if we needed years of mistakes and hard work to find success, there had to be others who are struggling to see positive change as well, regardless of what stage they are at in the affair recovery and healing process.
And from this assumption - and our desire to help others - The Affair Recovery Movement was born.
"I just purchased the AR Movement lifetime membership! It seems this is the toolkit we've been searching for these past few months of confusion and pain.Anthony
We have noticed, felt, seen the healing, true healing and repair, begin this past week. I "got it" finally, and my wife can see and feel that I got it. She longed for my presence and empathy and my unselfish work to help her and myself!
Now the lifetime work begins through this lifetime membership, and lifetime support from many just like us. I can't say thank you enough, that God allowed you and your wife to endure your hardship so many others can be blessed."
"I would like to give my heartfelt appreciation for creating this wonderful community as it has helped me to be more positive and eventually managed to save my marriage."Sofie
"Thank you again for your support. The AR Movement is my saviour. If I can't sleep I either read an article or listen to a podcast or something. Everything always makes more sense when I do this and then I can get back to sleep...I am already getting so much out of joining the AR Movement. It has helped me through a tough couple of days."Kylie
Access to all of our healing and recovery programs for both the betrayed spouse and the unfaithful person.
This includes, Empower ME!, Survive and Thrive after Infidelity, The Cheaters Guide, and the Affair Recovery Group, as well as any future programs that we create.
If you're not familiar with these programs, check out the short summaries below.
A program that includes concrete tools to change your mind and change your life.
This is a multi-media program and it follows a logical path that is healing. The content is delivered in a way that gives you just the information you need for that day.
The information will be delivered over a 30-day period and includes content and exercises that will calm the mind and the body, help you gain clarity, and prepare you for the transformation that is required to rebuild your marriage, the life of your dreams - or both.
For the last several years we have surveyed our readers and they have told us their most difficult struggles with respect to recovering and healing from an affair.
The end result is a total recovery and healing program that tackles the top 8 struggles in module format, that will not only help you survive the affair - but thrive!
Healing after infidelity is virtually impossible without the joint efforts of both partners - especially the cheater.
This program delves into the 24 'tasks' that the cheater must complete in order for him/her to transform him or herself from betrayer to healer.
The program is presented from a man's perspective, though it's appropriate for females as well.
A must for both the unfaithful and victim of an affair!
There is no better teacher than knowledge and experience when trying to recover from infidelity.
Learn from 23 audios (plus transcripts) with over 18 hours of digging deep into the vaults of knowledge and experience of a couple that has survived infidelity, and also of a Marriage and Family Therapist with over 25 years of experience counseling couples in crisis.
Group Coaching Sessions
We’ll hold live coaching calls each month where we will address various topics of interest, as well as interview experts, authors, therapists, and survivors. Each session will be recorded and posted to the member's area so that you can access them at your convenience.
The goal of these sessions is to address the topics that are most relevant to our members and to supplement their overall learning, recovery, healing and self-care efforts.
Tired of searching endlessly on the Internet for recovery and healing content? Well, the Recovery Library has hundreds (800+) videos, audios, eBooks and guides about healing, recovery, relationships, self-help, inspiration - and more.
This content is curated from a variety of sources and includes material from authors, experts, therapists and survivors. If there is a related topic that you want to delve into more, chances are we will have something in the Recovery Library.
Linda, Doug & Sarah will field your questions that you submit through the member support page. We will provide you with our honest feedback, suggestions, advice, etc. Additionally, we will periodically announce impromptu teleconference ‘office hours’ where we can talk on an informal, small group basis.
With the Office Hours, you will have the benefit of learning from Linda, Doug & Sarah and be able to pick their brains for advice based on their experiences and knowledge. We may not be counselors or therapists, but we're pretty sure we've been through much of what you're going through!
Simply put, these are recorded bite-sized, easily and quickly consumable nuggets of advice, experiences and tips that we feel might be of benefit during your recovery and healing process. You can learn about important affair related topics quickly and directly. We will add several new Two-Minute Tips on a regular basis.
Community Support Forum and Chat Room
The possibilities to help and support one another are almost limitless when you choose to utilize the private, safe forum and/or the chat room inside the member's area.
It seems that most member only sites these days include a Facebook Group as the community element of their program. That's great and there is nothing wrong with that. In fact, we did consider it as well.
However, in lieu of a Facebook group, we chose instead to utilize a forum and chat room for community support purposes. Facebook groups are great but there are several negatives that we wanted to avoid. First and foremost is privacy.
We know that your privacy is important to you (as it is to us) and the chat room and forum allow you to maintain that privacy/anonymity, yet also allow you to ask questions, converse with other members, hold topic-specific chat sessions in real time, and much more.
Use your imagination with these two community outposts and you'll be amazed at the support you can get - and give.
Discounted Telephone Mentoring
Sometimes you just need a little bit more intensive support and hand-holding. Our telephone mentoring program is great for that.
Mentoring allows us to jump on the phone together and talk about what's most important to you. It's not a 'coaching' program where there are assignments or any other type of preset agenda. No, it's simply having a conversation to address your struggles, answer your questions, and provide non-judgemental support and advice.
As a member you can have telephone mentoring sessions with Linda, Doug or Sarah P. at a 25% discount.
As you can see from the elements of the AR Movement Member's area, it is heavy on interactive support.
Courses and books are great (and those are included as well), but sometimes you just need to be able to communicate with a real person to get your questions answered and for a bit of guidance.
All of the AR Movement membership elements were created to help you advance through the 5 Stages of Affair Recovery - no matter what stage you are currently in.
- The Master Programs - Consider these programs to be your course work in affair recovery and healing. Here is where you learn (both BS and CS) what it takes to survive and thrive after an affair from Linda and Doug's experiences, their research, from therapists, and from the thousands of people like you whom they have communicated with over the years. They will help you understand what's happening so that you can better overcome the constant pain, excruciating thoughts and images. At the same time, helping you to get a better handle on the daunting sense of doubt, uncertainty and overwhelm. This isn't theory. It's real-life stuff.
- Group Coaching Sessions - Learn about important infidelity and relationship topics from other experts, authors, therapists and survivors. Ours is not the only voice. We think that it's important to learn from others as well.
- The Recovery Library - Stop wasting precious time searching for infidelity stuff on the internet. We've done all that for you by curating several hundred resources that are currently in the library. Plus, we're adding more each month.
- Office Hours - Have a question for Doug and Linda? We will answer them during the office hours. Personal, real life answers. We've been in your shoes.
- Two Minute Tips - Pressed for time? Then check out these quick nuggests of advice for recovery, healing and other related topics.
- Forum/Chat Rooms - Community Support from other like-minded, caring individuals in a private setting. The chat room offers real-time conversation, file sharing, audio sharing, etc., for a wide range of communication options to get that peer support you need - when you need it.
- Discounted Mentoring - If you need additional one-on-one support - or just need someone to talk to who understands - you can get it here for a 25% discount. Intimate, non-judgemental advice and support for less money.
New Option Just Added:
- For those who desire an extra level of support, we've added the "Helping Hand" level which includes a weekly one-on-one mentoring session with Linda and/or Doug. It also includes email support.
So How Do You Know if Becoming an AR Movement Member is Right For You?
THIS IS FOR YOU IF:
- You want a quicker recovery time
- You want answers to pressing questions
- You and/or your partner aren't ready for therapy, (or want to supplement your therapy) but you still need some help
- You want/need personal support from others who have experienced infidelity
- You simply want to take advantage of all the available help
- You're still wondering if you should even stay married
- You're an unfaithful spouse who wants to do everything possible to help your partner heal
THIS IS NOT FOR YOU IF:
- You DON'T want help
- If you aren't ready to recover from the affair as quickly as possible
- It's OK to be angry but you're just looking to bash your spouse to someone
- You aren't ready to heal and find peace
- You're not open to advice and support from someone else
- You just want someone to tell you what you want to hear
- You're an unfaithful spouse who does't 'get it', doesn't want to 'get it' - and never will.
First off, we understand that during these uncertain times, it’s not easy to make an investment - even one as important as this.
So, our guarantee states that you have a full 30 days to try out your full membership to The Affair Recovery Movement. You'll have access to everything - no exceptions.
If you don't find it helpful for any reason at the end of 30 days, get in touch with us and ask for a refund. We'll refund you every dime, ensure your account is cancelled, and we'll part as friends. No questions asked.
*Please note: The 30-day refund does not apply to the "Helping Hand" option.