A Mentor Can Help You Find Strength, Hope and Direction. We Understand What You're Going Through. We've Been There.
We've Felt the Same Way. We've Made the Same Mistakes. We Survived. So Can You!
Why Mentoring?
Experience is the best teacher, and we've got plenty of it. Our journey through affair recovery wasn't easy, but it taught us a lot. Now, we want to share that knowledge with you. Our mentoring isn't about following a set program. It's all about your needs, your questions, and your priorities.
We’re here to support, strengthen, educate, and encourage you. You'll get an honest, unbiased, and straightforward perspective. And the best part? You can do it all from the comfort of your home over the phone.
I have learned so much from your blog and our mentoring sessions. I really have no idea how I would have gotten through this without your help. I am a spiritual person, and I know you will be blessed in your life with all you do for others.
Annie
Have You Ever Been Confused About What to Do?
When we started our journey of affair recovery, we did it alone. Looking back, having a mentor would have been a game-changer. Someone who’s been through it, survived, and even thrived. That's why we believe mentors are crucial for healing.
Since around 2012, we’ve mentored hundreds of men and women, helping them find their way through the storm. We’ve walked this path countless times, and we’ve seen so many people come out stronger on the other side.
So What is Mentoring All About?
It’s not a quick fix. Affair recovery can take time. Experts say it might take at least two years, but every couple is different. The goal is to get you where you want to go, no matter how long it takes.
A growth opportunity. You'll learn about yourself and your relationships, helping you move through the healing process faster.
A guiding hand. Healing doesn’t just happen. You need support, input, and someone to walk with you, showing new roads and giving you a person to talk to.
Mentoring starts with you and your situation. We work together to help find the strength and strategies you need to do exactly what is best for you and those closest to you. This is based on your priorities, questions and needs - not ours.
We are human. We do not have all the answers. We never will have all the answers. We mentor from our own experiences - our mistakes and successes. Our role is sometimes to be the answer, sometimes to have the answer, and sometimes to know where to find the answer.
Why Mentoring with Us?
Real Experience: We're not therapists, but we've been through what you're going through. We've made the same mistakes and learned from them.
Compassion and Understanding: We get your pain and struggles. We've rebuilt a seemingly hopeless marriage.
Both Perspectives: We offer insights from both sides of the affair – the betrayed and the unfaithful spouse. (You have the flexibility to choose mentoring sessions with either Linda or Doug, or mix and match as it suits you.)
“I wanted to let you know how fortunate I am to have found your website and mentoring program. It has been one year post d-day after my husband’s 2 year emotional affair that eventually led to a physical one. Even though my husband has re-committed to our marriage and has been doing all the right things I still have times that my emotions get the best of me. Thank you so much Linda for your mentoring and getting me through some difficult challenges. Thank you for your great advice and for giving me hope and confidence. It is such a blessing to have you guys to turn to.” - Angela, WA
Here's What Mentoring Can Do For You
Remember that mentoring is only as good as you make it. This is your program based on your needs. We do not "coach" you or give you exercises or any of that stuff. It's simply utilizing our abilities, knowledge and experiences to support, educate and guide you towards your goals. That said, here are some things that mentoring can do for you...
Avoid Common Mistakes
Learn from our experiences so you don’t have to make the same mistakes.
Identify Your Strengths and Challenges
Understand what’s working in your marriage and what needs work.
Gain Clear Direction
Ensure you’re on the right track with confidence.
Understand Both Sides
We avoid bias and work towards saving your marriage.
Identify Hidden Issues
Get to the root of the real issues rather than arguing over surface problems.
Save Time and Agony
Get specific guidance for your unique challenges, making the healing process faster and easier.
Personalized Mentoring Programs to Support Your Affair Recovery Journey
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Betrayed Spouse Mentoring
If you’re the betrayed spouse, find comfort with Linda or Doug. Linda understands your emotions and can help you manage them. Doug offers insights into what might be going through your spouse’s mind and how to approach them.
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Unfaithful Spouse Mentoring
This works similarly but in reverse. Linda can help you understand the betrayed spouse’s perspective, while Doug shares his experiences, guiding you through the process of mending your relationship.
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Intensive Coaching for the Unfaithful Person
Doug offers an intensive coaching program for the unfaithful person who may need more structure, more focus and more accountability than a typical mentoring relationship might provide. You can learn more about this program by clicking the link below.
Ready to Start?
Remember, mentoring is only as good as you make it. It's your program, based on your needs. We're here to support, educate, and guide you toward your goals.
Let's navigate this journey together. Reach out today and take the first step towards healing and recovery. Click the button below to get started.
Here’s What a Few of Our Clients Had to Say…
- James
Thank you so much Linda and Doug! Your support through the mentor program is just amazing. When you couple that with the support I've received from friends and family, I consider myself a blessed man…Thank you! Thank you for helping me through some of my darkest days, helping me see that I am better than who I was told I am. Helping me see what's really important and helping me take the steps to get where I need to be.
- MaggieI have sent you a picture of my kids and I. This is my “new” family. These are the faces of the people you have mentored for some time and I so truly appreciate the experience of speaking to you, because it has made my journey easier to deal with, no matter what the outcome. Having a support system is so important and I am grateful to have the ones I have had over this trying time in my life. And we will be fine. I truly believe we will.
- JessicaMy heart felt lighter after I spoke with Linda, it was a very good session for me to be able to connect with someone who understands and gets it. Many websites and blogs give sound advice but I can resonate with Doug and Linda most. At this point it's just good to have someone to listen, to tell me it's all going to be ok someday. The journey is far too lonely.
- B & RWe credit Linda and Doug with saving our sanity and our 35 year marriage. We were fortunate to find them on D-day and begin our recovery with “Survive and Thrive”. A year later we have now read extensively and worked through another well-regarded program, but we keep coming back to Doug and Linda for sage and grounded wisdom won through their own lived experience, their extensive research, and the community they have created. When we plateaued, we asked them to mentor us privately, and that remains a tremendous blessing. Early in our recovery we worked with Sarah, who adroitly led us to recognize that my husband has been dismissive avoidant since childhood. He is still working through that and other issues, and now Doug is also helping him become more emotionally available and consistent with me.
I have so many wide-ranging questions, and Linda wisely, compassionately, and encouragingly guides me with her wealth of experience and her ability to send me a podcast or book suggestion for every topic I encounter and need/want to learn more about. I have always been well-read and confident, but I am learning so much that helps me become an even stronger and wiser woman, wife, friend, daughter, and mother. I truly believe the lessons we learn through EAJ will be passed on for generations; I only wish we had known them years ago. I am at the astonishing point where I can be grateful that the EA’s happened, because I see how our marriage already is, and promises to be, healthier, more intimate, and more joyful than ever.
Forever Gratefully, B&R
Choose Between Individual Sessions, Multi-Session Packages or Tailored Support for Every Stage of Your Recovery
Individual Sessions & Multi-Session Packages
Choose the option that's right for you.
Reserve your 4 One-hour sessions package and save!
You will also receive our 2 flagship programs, Survive and Thrive after Infidelity and The Unfaithful Person's Guide to Helping Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair ($179 value).
Reserve your 8 One-hour sessions package and save even more!
You will also receive lifetime access to our member-only area, The Affair Recovery Movement, which includes all of our programs, the Recovery Library, Group Support Sessions, and more - as our gift to you ($300 value).
Tailored Mentoring Paths for Every Stage of Recovery
Choose the Support Path That Fits Your Needs
Purpose: Designed for those in the immediate aftermath of discovering an affair, this program focuses on stabilizing emotions, managing crisis, and establishing initial steps towards recovery.
Weekly sessions for 3-months
Email Support - For when you need support between sessions
Lifetime Membership to the Affair Recovery Movement - All of our programs, a Recovery Library and much more.
Flexibility - You can speak to either Linda or Doug (or mix & match)
Payment plan available
Purpose: Ideal for those who have moved past the initial crisis but still need regular support to address ongoing challenges and continue their recovery journey.
Bi-weekly sessions for 3-months
Email Support - For when you need support between sessions
Lifetime Membership to the Affair Recovery Movement - All of our programs, a Recovery Library and much more.
Flexibility - You can speak to either Linda or Doug (or mix & match)
Payment plan available
Purpose: Suited for those who have made significant progress in their recovery and are looking to maintain their gains, continue personal growth, and ensure long-term stability.
Monthly sessions for 6-months
Email Support - For when you need support between sessions
Lifetime Membership to the Affair Recovery Movement - All of our programs, a Recovery Library and much more.
Flexibility - You can speak to either Linda or Doug (or mix & match)
Payment plan available
Frequently Asked Questions
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What happens after I purchase a session or package of sessions?Immediately after completing your purchase you will be directed to a page that will have some basic information along with a contact form. Once you complete that contact form and send it to us, we will be notified and will attempt to contact you via email to schedule your first session.
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If I purchase a multi-session package, do I schedule all of the sessions upfront?
You can certainly do that if you so desire, but typically most people schedule their sessions as they go along. More or less on an as-needed basis. However, you are certainly free to do this any way you want. After all, they’re your sessions and you determine when you want/need one.
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How do the phone sessions work?
Once we determine when your first session will be, Linda or Doug will call you at the agreed upon time at the number you provide her. The session will last for an hour.
Remember that the sessions are not planned out or follow any sort of agenda. They are YOUR sessions and you are free to address whatever it is you would like to address.
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Is it possible for my spouse to join us on the mentoring call?
You are more than welcome to have your spouse accompany you on the call. However, please notify us in advance of the call to let us know.
Conducting joint mentoring calls are typically a totally different dynamic than individual mentoring calls and require a different approach on our part. So it’s best to inform us in advance so that there are no surprises.
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What if I have to cancel a session for some reason?
Just shoot us an email letting us know.
Our goal is to empower you, point you in the right direction and give you skills to heal your life and relationship … and to take your marriage to the next level. We look forward to helping you heal, get beyond the pain, and build a happy life on the other side of the affair.
Best Wishes,
Linda & Doug
Legal Disclaimer: Emotional Affair Journey's Mentoring program is not counseling, nor is it a substitute for counseling. It is a self-paced, self-directed support resource. Linda and Doug are not counselors or therapists. If you need professional counseling, please seek a licensed professional therapist in your area.