The Pain of Betrayal – Do We Have Adequate Words to Describe What it Feels Like?

When it comes to describing the actual pain of betrayal, words often fail us. The pain of being betrayed is a visceral experience and your body feels it and experiences it. By...

by Sarah P.

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Dear EAJ: After Nearly a Decade, I Am Still Not Over the Affair

What does a person do when it’s been almost 10-years and is still not over the affair? By Sarah P. We are introducing a new series that answers questions...

by Sarah P.

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Prepare for Valentine’s Day Triggers: Here Is Why Affair Partners Cannot Truly Love Each Other

This is a painting within a painting within a painting within a painting within a painting. This painting is also like a rabbit hole of sorts. I picked this image because it...

by Sarah P.

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How to Handle a Bunny Boiler and the Other Person Who Won’t Go Away

Photo by Claudia Dea How to handle a bunny boiler, as well as how to handle the other person who just simply won’t leave you and/or your spouse alone. By Doug Several...

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Behavior Towards Betrayed Spouses that is No Longer Acceptable

This article is about behavior that is no longer acceptable: Making cruel and blaming statements about betrayed spouses, statements that invalidate the experience of...

by Sarah P.

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What to Say When a Wayward Spouse Blames You for the Affair

This article is for people who would like to stay in their marriages. This article is for people who would like tips on how to respond to a wayward spouse when a...

by Sarah P.

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That Paradox of the Look of Disgust

By Sarah P. It is an unmistakable look and you have probably seen it on the cheater’s face after you found out about the affair. The cat was out of the bag: your spouse was...

by Sarah P.

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Revenge Fantasies – All the Things I Want to Say

By “TryingToGetOver” One of the most frustrating parts of recovery is having about a million things you want to say to the person who stole your spouse’s attention. None of...

by GuestPoster

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EA or PA? The Labels We Assign to Affairs – Are They Really Important?

By “Rose” Lately I have been journaling a lot; suggested by my therapist, it really helps to get the emotions out. Sometimes I’ll write my spouse a nasty-gram but...

by GuestPoster

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When Bigfoot, the Loch Ness Monster, and the Other Person Are All Best Friends in their Non-Existence

By Sarah P. While the title of this post seems comical at first, this is a title that is quite literal since it hints at gaslighting. I wanted to revisit the topic of...

by Sarah P.

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