A survivor shares 5 things she’s noticed that indicate she is healing after betrayal. by ‘TryingToGetOver’ The betrayal of an affair comes with so much raw hurt, sadness and anger that it threatens to overwhelm you. The shock of it stunned me. What was even harder was that it didn’t seem to wear off. […]
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The Potentially Long-Lasting Effects of Affair Trauma
Approximately a month ago I was speaking to a woman (let’s call her Kate), who shared her story to me during a mentoring session. It was a familiar story in that her husband (John) had an affair over 10 years ago with a co-worker. His affair lasted for several months. Since their D-day, they had […]
Post Traumatic Growth After Infidelity: The 3 Ingredients That Make It Possible
By Sarah P. In past blogs, I have discussed various aspects of PTSD as a result of an affair as well as trauma bonds. I have also discussed the idea that it is possible to overcome trauma. But, the one thing I have not written about in great detail is the concept of post traumatic […]
Burning Questions: Is It Possible to Recover from an Affair in the Face of Unanswered Questions?
This article is about wayward spouses who actively withhold details and what happens when they do so. Is it possible to recover from an affair without knowing all the details? By Sarah P. Being married can be hard, being married can be extremely lonely for days or weeks on end, being married can be confusing. […]
Affair Trauma Part 2: Can’t Fight This Feeling Anymore
By Sarah P. This post is part two of a three part series on Affair Trauma. (Click here for Part One) In this post, I will discuss the real reasons you feel like you cannot fight the battle against trauma anymore. Once we understand why trauma and subsequent symptoms of PTSD are so difficult to […]
Struggling to Heal? You Have to Reach!
I’m on a quest this year to read as many books as I can. I’m juggling my reading time somewhere in between my incredibly busy schedule at school and my almost daily caretaking of my aging parents. I am currently finishing up a book by Cheryl Strayed entitled, “Tiny Beautiful Things.” You may have […]
New Year’s Resolutions for Affair Recovery
Happy New Year! Every year we spend a great deal of time during the week between Christmas and New Year’s working on our resolutions for the upcoming new year. This year, we did things a little differently. This year we set work and personal goals as usual, but only one real resolution – To work […]
Our Affair Recovery – Two Subtle Shifts That Made a Difference
By Doug Recently I’ve been mentoring a lot of people who are struggling with this whole affair recovery process. Up until now, about 95% of the people I speak with are betrayed spouses (almost always women) who are trying to figure out what the heck could be going through the minds of their unfaithful […]
Save Yourself: You Can Recover From Infidelity Even If Your Partner Is Not an Active Participant
By Sarah P. “The truth will set you free, but not until it’s had its way with you.” –David Foster Wallace This piece is about recovering alone from infidelity and why it is not just plausible – it is possible. This post also contains more of ‘my truth’ about my relationship with my ex as I […]
Trauma Bonding: Why It’s So Hard to Let Go After an Affair
By Sarah P. Abandonment causes deep shame. Abandonment by betrayal is worse than mindless neglect. Betrayal is purposeful and self-serving. If severe enough, it is traumatic.” Patrick J. Carnes, PhD (1) The other day when I was looking for studies in psychology databases, I saw an abstract that caught my eye. The abstract basically said […]
Discover the 10 Most Important Lessons about Surviving Infidelity
This short guide tells you what you need to know to survive the affair, heal yourself and emerge on the other side a stronger person.
Infidelity Guides
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It’s Tough To Stop an Emotional Affair
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When the Other Woman Becomes the Wife
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The Runaway Spouse Syndrome
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Real Reasons the Emotional Affair Happened
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Staying After Cheating: Is It the Right Thing to Do?
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How Does A Betrayed Spouse Heal from Cheating?
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Open House Discussion
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Does the Other Woman Play A Role In an Affair or Does the Blame Land Solely on the Cheating Husbands? YOU Decide
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The Illusion and the Delusion of People Who Have Affairs
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Take Your Anger and Shame and Burn It! 5 Practical Ways to Build Yourself Back Up After Infidelity
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Your 2019 New Year’s Resolutions for Affair Recovery
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Merry Christmas!
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Trying to Get Inside the Mind of the Other Woman – 5 Reasons the OW Does What She Does
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Behavior Towards Betrayed Spouses that is No Longer Acceptable
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5 Things That Point to Healing After Betrayal
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Do You Have an Ethical Obligation to Tell the Betrayed Spouse that Their Spouse is Cheating?
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Alison: I know I’m super late to this comment party, but...
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Shifting Impressions: Devastated Wife I would refrain from sending such...
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Soul Mate: Nice Blog TryingtoGetOver, I was one of those w...
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H: If only someone had come along and stopped the aff...
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Tryingtogetover: I have written a letter to my husband’s AP but n...
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Devistated wife: My OW was my husband’s high school/college girlf...
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Wilma: Married 30 years. My H was officially outed by his...
Discover the 10 Most Important Lessons about Surviving Infidelity
This short guide tells you what you need to know to survive the affair, heal yourself and emerge on the other side a stronger person.
