By Sarah P. This article is a warning of the things to come. I have no good answer for this situation, but regardless, all the betrayed spouses of the world need to be on guard because Ashley-Madison now has more female subscribers than male subscribers. I will give some tips at the end of this article […]
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But I’m Telling the Truth! – When the Betrayed Spouse Doesn’t Believe the Unfaithful Person Even When They are Telling the Truth
Sometimes when the wayward spouse says, “But I’m telling the truth,” they really are. But it can be hard for them to believed – for good reasons. By Doug Having mentored quite a few well-meaning wayward spouses lately, I’ve noticed a common frustration that several of them mentioned… Their betrayed spouses (BS) not believing them […]
Changing Places: When the Wayward Spouse Identifies as the Victim
It can be almost impossible to reason with or repair your marriage when the wayward spouse identifies as the victim. By Sarah P. Any of us who have been betrayed spouses know that our wayward spouses do and say some of the most outrageous things we have ever heard or experienced. One of the most […]
I Wish I Would Have Known That! – 7 Crucial Things Wayward Spouses Need to Know
We all make mistakes along our affair recovery journeys, but it sure seems as though the unfaithful spouse is the person making the lion’s share of them. I made my share of them for sure, and I mentor with people all the time who communicate to me the mistakes they and their spouse have made […]
It’s Time for a Christmas Miracle: How to Have a Holiday Truce When Recovering from an Affair
By Sarah P. Despite all the messages that tell us to spread cheer or have a Holly-Jolly Christmas, the holidays can be a very difficult time for many people. Not all families are as happy as television commercials portray and not all Hanukkahs or Christmases inspire feelings of joy and togetherness. When recovering from an […]
Why Don’t Cheaters Leave Their Spouses for the Affair Partner?
The stats are overwhelmingly high that married men and women who have affairs typically don’t leave their spouse for the affair partner. So why don’t cheaters leave their spouses? Most betrayed spouses want to believe that their unfaithful partner stayed because they realized that they had made a terrible mistake and remained in the […]
Burning Questions: Is It Possible to Recover from an Affair in the Face of Unanswered Questions?
This article is about wayward spouses who actively withhold details and what happens when they do so. Is it possible to recover from an affair without knowing all the details? By Sarah P. Being married can be hard, being married can be extremely lonely for days or weeks on end, being married can be confusing. […]
Understanding Why You Had Your Affair – The Simple 5-Step Process
One of the biggest challenges for a person trying to recover from their spouse’s affair is understanding why the affair happened in the first place. Why did the unfaithful spouse make the decisions they did? What compounds this challenge even further is the fact that many (if not most) of the unfaithful persons don’t really […]
The 8 Pillars of Trust – Ways the Unfaithful Spouse Can Help Rebuild Trust
I listen to a few podcasts on a weekly basis. My listening interests range primarily from sports, to business to relationships. The other day I listened to a business-related podcast on Donald Miller’s site where he interviewed David Horsager, leadership speaker and author of The Trust Edge. David believes practically every business problem is ultimately […]
The Funeral
We received a call from Linda’s brother that his ex-wife passed away early in the morning on October 26. She died of complications from Cirrhosis of the liver. She had massive internal bleeding and basically bled to death. Not a week earlier, we had talked to one of our nieces on the phone and she told […]
Discover the 10 Most Important Lessons about Surviving Infidelity
This short guide tells you what you need to know to survive the affair, heal yourself and emerge on the other side a stronger person.
Infidelity Guides
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It’s Tough To Stop an Emotional Affair
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When the Other Woman Becomes the Wife
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The Runaway Spouse Syndrome
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Real Reasons the Emotional Affair Happened
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Staying After Cheating: Is It the Right Thing to Do?
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How Does A Betrayed Spouse Heal from Cheating?
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Open House Discussion
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Does the Other Woman Play A Role In an Affair or Does the Blame Land Solely on the Cheating Husbands? YOU Decide
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Open ‘Mic’ Discussion #32 – What’s On Your Mind?
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Why the Pick-Me Dance Does Not Work
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Row the Boat – A Metaphor for Affair Recovery
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Wife’s Worst Nightmare: Ashley-Madison Now Has More Female Subscribers than Male Subscribers
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Goldi-Child, the Three Bears, and Beds: Who Takes the Blame for Infidelity?
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The State of Things – A Personal Update
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The Ultimate Poach: When Your Husband Gets the Other Woman Pregnant
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How to Handle Triggers – You Decide!
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Michele: My husbands previous EA partner at work is a repea...
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Doug: Hey geogal, I'm horrible with time lines and dat...
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TheFirstWife: K. The other thing that I said to my H during his...
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geogal: How long did that process take? How long did you s...
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CatMandu: To all who have emails and other info: Keep it. Do...
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K: You're absolutely right. I think you may have bee...
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Discover the 10 Most Important Lessons about Surviving Infidelity
This short guide tells you what you need to know to survive the affair, heal yourself and emerge on the other side a stronger person.
