By ‘Blindsided’ I am Blindsided. I chose this name for this site, because that is what happened to me. I was 100% blindsided when I found out, quite accidentally that my husband was engaged in an affair. At the time – my D Day – I did not know that it was an emotional affair, […]
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Eureka, We Found it: The Recent Origins of Blaming the Betrayed Spouse
By Sarah P. For a while, I have wondered how the myth of blaming the (usually) female betrayed spouse found its way into modern psychology. After all, modern psychology purports to be a science and an art. Indeed, thousands of studies have occurred just in the past decade within the field of psychology. But, […]
A Tribute to All of the Wonderful Women and Men Who Walk Alongside Us
By Sarah P. You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Surviving is important; thriving is elegant. My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some […]
Affair Discovery – Like Getting Hit By a Truck
By “TryingToGetOver” The last thing I wanted to hear when my husband’s affair was discovered was how long and hard the road to recovery would be. But it takes work and time, and there’s no getting around it, only through it. We are 7 months post Discovery Day number three (aka the time it finally […]
Row the Boat – A Metaphor for Affair Recovery
By Doug A few weeks ago, I couldn’t sleep. Usually when this happens I either head down to my basement office and start working, or I head to the couch, flip on the TV and hope to find some sort of sporting event I can watch with the sound off so that it puts […]
Goldi-Child, the Three Bears, and Beds: Who Takes the Blame for Infidelity?
By Sarah P. Sometimes people think I am too hard on the affair partner. There is a backstory as to why, but since people who read this blog do not know me, I have hesitated sharing all of it. After all, the lives of other people are not TV shows where we sit back and […]
Narcissism: The Difference Between Affair-Driven Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder
By Sarah P. When an individual is having an affair and/or in the middle of the affair fog, they often do and say the same things that life-long narcissists do and say. During this period of time, the betrayed spouse is left wondering if they married someone with narcissistic personality disorder. The betrayed spouse will […]
Taking Inventory: A New Approach to the New Year & A Betrayed Spouse’s Bill of Rights
By Sarah P. Originally, I had planned to write a post about New Year’s resolutions for marriage, but Linda and Doug covered that perfectly. I wanted to cover the change in the new year from a different perspective and the idea of an inventory seemed perfect. This concept is especially helpful regarding the concept of […]
It’s Time for a Christmas Miracle: How to Have a Holiday Truce When Recovering from an Affair
By Sarah P. Despite all the messages that tell us to spread cheer or have a Holly-Jolly Christmas, the holidays can be a very difficult time for many people. Not all families are as happy as television commercials portray and not all Hanukkahs or Christmases inspire feelings of joy and togetherness. When recovering from an […]
The Real Reasons Cheaters Don’t Want to Talk About Their Affair
I wanted to piggy-back just a bit off Sarah P’s excellent post from last week and provide you with some more reasons cheaters don’t want to talk about their affair and/or provide the betrayed person with much – if any details. By Doug After all the secrecy and lying that usually comes with having an […]
Discover the 10 Most Important Lessons about Surviving Infidelity
This short guide tells you what you need to know to survive the affair, heal yourself and emerge on the other side a stronger person.
Infidelity Guides
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It’s Tough To Stop an Emotional Affair
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When the Other Woman Becomes the Wife
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The Runaway Spouse Syndrome
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Real Reasons the Emotional Affair Happened
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Staying After Cheating: Is It the Right Thing to Do?
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How Does A Betrayed Spouse Heal from Cheating?
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Open House Discussion
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Does the Other Woman Play A Role In an Affair or Does the Blame Land Solely on the Cheating Husbands? YOU Decide
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The Illusion and the Delusion of People Who Have Affairs
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Take Your Anger and Shame and Burn It! 5 Practical Ways to Build Yourself Back Up After Infidelity
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Your 2019 New Year’s Resolutions for Affair Recovery
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Merry Christmas!
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Trying to Get Inside the Mind of the Other Woman – 5 Reasons the OW Does What She Does
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Behavior Towards Betrayed Spouses that is No Longer Acceptable
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5 Things That Point to Healing After Betrayal
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Do You Have an Ethical Obligation to Tell the Betrayed Spouse that Their Spouse is Cheating?
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Alison: I know I’m super late to this comment party, but...
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Shifting Impressions: Devastated Wife I would refrain from sending such...
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Soul Mate: Nice Blog TryingtoGetOver, I was one of those w...
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H: If only someone had come along and stopped the aff...
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Tryingtogetover: I have written a letter to my husband’s AP but n...
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Devistated wife: My OW was my husband’s high school/college girlf...
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Wilma: Married 30 years. My H was officially outed by his...
Discover the 10 Most Important Lessons about Surviving Infidelity
This short guide tells you what you need to know to survive the affair, heal yourself and emerge on the other side a stronger person.
