Dear EAJ: After Nearly a Decade, I Am Still Not Over the Affair

What does a person do when it’s been almost 10-years and is still not over the affair? By Sarah P. We are introducing a new series that answers questions...

by Sarah P.

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Marriage Crisis After D-Day: You Have the Power of Choice and That Is Everything

In this blog post, I will discuss the concept of power and control and how it relates to affair recovery. The goal of this article is to empower betrayed spouses at a...

by Sarah P.

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The Aftermath of an Affair – How Dealing With This Means Dealing With That

In the immediate aftermath of an affair, you have one, big, soul-crushing and perhaps relationship-ruining betrayal to work through. By ‘TryingToGetOver’ Dragging the truth...

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Introspection On the Part of the Betrayed Spouse

By ‘Blindsided’ I am Blindsided. I chose this name for this site, because that is what happened to me. I was 100% blindsided when I found out, quite accidentally...

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Eureka, We Found it: The Recent Origins of Blaming the Betrayed Spouse

By Sarah P. For a while, I have wondered how the myth of blaming the (usually) female betrayed spouse found its way into modern psychology. After all, modern psychology...

by Sarah P.

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A Tribute to All of the Wonderful Women and Men Who Walk Alongside Us

By Sarah P. You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Surviving is important; thriving is elegant. My mission in...

by Sarah P.

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Affair Discovery – Like Getting Hit By a Truck

By “TryingToGetOver” The last thing I wanted to hear when my husband’s affair was discovered was how long and hard the road to recovery would be. But it takes...

by GuestPoster

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Row the Boat – A Metaphor for Affair Recovery

By Doug A few weeks ago, I couldn’t sleep. Usually when this happens I either head down to my basement office and start working, or I head to the couch, flip on the TV...

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Goldi-Child, the Three Bears, and Beds: Who Takes the Blame for Infidelity?

By Sarah P. Sometimes people think I am too hard on the affair partner. There is a backstory as to why, but since people who read this blog do not know me, I have hesitated...

by Sarah P.

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Narcissism: The Difference Between Affair-Driven Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder

By Sarah P. When an individual is having an affair and/or in the middle of the affair fog, they often do and say the same things that life-long narcissists do and say. During...

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