By Sarah P. Have you ever noticed that your wayward spouse says some of the most off-the-wall things sometimes? Never in a million years would you have expected some things to come out of the mouth of your dearest and beloved husband or wife. Yet, there you are, standing in disbelief, while your husband/wife is […]
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Is It Possible that Adult ADHD Contributed to an Affair?
Why you should ask if adult ADHD may be the elephant in the room. By Melissa Orlov When your partner has an affair, one of your first instincts is to try to figure out what happened. What led you both to this place? One possible factor that neither partners, nor therapists, commonly consider is that […]
Musings on Infidelity: Affairs Are Not Original and Not Excusable
By Sarah P. The things that people say and do during affairs are so predictable that it is almost funny. Unfortunately, broken trust, destroyed lives, and broken families are no laughing matter. Still, there are patterns that all affairs follow; there are universal actions on the part of the wayward spouse; and there are the […]
John Gottman’s Four Horsemen: Defensiveness
By Sarah P. This post is the third segment in the John Gottman’s Four Horsemen series. In this post, I will be discussing defensiveness. But, before we jump into the post, I would like for you to watch this video. It’s only about 5 minutes long so let’s dive in: I really like […]
Coping with the Pain of Infidelity
We received an email the other day from a reader who writes the following: I have been in contact with you during the last few months. Your site continues to be a great resource for me as I have come to terms with what happened in my marriage. We are the couple […]
The Ache of Affairs and What You Can Do About It
By Sarah P. The one question that people ask after their partner has had an affair is “why?” There are many answers to this question, but not enough information on what to do about it. In this blog post, I will talk about my own answer to the “why” and “what.” But first, let’s define […]
Cheaters Can Be Masters at Emotional Manipulation
I was exchanging emails with a woman recently whose husband had an affair lasting about 2 years, and whose behavior since discovery has been incredibly bad. During our exchange, she forwarded me some texts that her husband had sent where he was expressing his deep sense of guilt and that he ‘didn’t know if he […]
Runaway Spouse: Cheating to Avoid Commitment
By Sarah P. Do you know how to spot a commitment-phobic person? It’s easy to spot the glaring examples of these people, but not so easy to spot clandestine commitment phobes. (I will call them CCP for short.) Most people have probably seen or heard about the film Runaway Bride that starred Julia Roberts. Each […]
Stop Making Excuses for Infidelity: It’s Not in Your Biology; It’s a Decision
By Sarah P. Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on […]
At the Heart of Attachment: How to Use Empathy to Communicate Effectively For On-Going Recovery
By Sarah P. Empathy is the most mysterious transaction that the human soul can have, and it’s accessible to all of us, but we have to give ourselves the opportunity to identify, to plunge ourselves in a story where we see the world from the bottom up or through another’s eyes or heart.” – Sue Monk […]
Discover the 10 Most Important Lessons about Surviving Infidelity
This short guide tells you what you need to know to survive the affair, heal yourself and emerge on the other side a stronger person.
Infidelity Guides
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It’s Tough To Stop an Emotional Affair
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When the Other Woman Becomes the Wife
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The Runaway Spouse Syndrome
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Real Reasons the Emotional Affair Happened
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Staying After Cheating: Is It the Right Thing to Do?
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How Does A Betrayed Spouse Heal from Cheating?
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Open House Discussion
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Does the Other Woman Play A Role In an Affair or Does the Blame Land Solely on the Cheating Husbands? YOU Decide
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How to Cheat on Your Spouse Without Feeling Guilty
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Revenge Fantasies – All the Things I Want to Say
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Eureka, We Found it: The Recent Origins of Blaming the Betrayed Spouse
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The Potentially Long-Lasting Effects of Affair Trauma
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How to Make Your Spouse Cheat on You
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Too Afraid to Rock the Boat – You Decide!
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Four Strikes and He Was Out: The Doctor of Psychology Who Did not Understand Monogamy or Psychology
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Another Neighborhood Marriage Bites the Dust
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Ironsides: But then the gender differences of biology go righ...
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Kay: Thank you for this article and sharing so much. Ho...
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Sarah P.: Hello Puzzled, I am so glad to see you back and...
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Hopeful: Sarah, I agree with your comments and thoughts reg...
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Puzzled: I think you're about 3 years out too. I keep wait...
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Discover the 10 Most Important Lessons about Surviving Infidelity
This short guide tells you what you need to know to survive the affair, heal yourself and emerge on the other side a stronger person.
