Revenge Fantasies – All the Things I Want to Say

By “TryingToGetOver” One of the most frustrating parts of recovery is having about a million things you want to say to the person who stole your spouse’s attention. None of...

by GuestPoster

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EA or PA? The Labels We Assign to Affairs – Are They Really Important?

By “Rose” Lately I have been journaling a lot; suggested by my therapist, it really helps to get the emotions out. Sometimes I’ll write my spouse a nasty-gram but...

by GuestPoster

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When Bigfoot, the Loch Ness Monster, and the Other Person Are All Best Friends in their Non-Existence

By Sarah P. While the title of this post seems comical at first, this is a title that is quite literal since it hints at gaslighting. I wanted to revisit the topic of...

by Sarah P.

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Why the Pick-Me Dance Does Not Work

Copyright Jim Davis. Jim Davis, if you are reading, I spent many an evening at Fox Fire’s and spent lots of money there just to save my sanity from the hell that is that...

by Sarah P.

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Tales of Several Relationships and More Reasons Why You Cannot Make Your Spouse Cheat

By Sarah P. My husband reads the New York Times every night before bed. Sometimes he will find a particular obnoxious article OR a particularly moving article and forward them...

by Sarah P.

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Understanding Gaslighting: A Brand of Jedi Mind Tricks

This article will help you in understanding gaslighting more, as well as how to recognize and respond to it. If your wayward spouse is making you doubt your own sanity, there...

by Sarah P.

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4 Lessons Learned from 2+ Years of Hell

By “Jack” Several months back we had a mentoring client, “Jack,” who was betrayed by his wife. Recently he sent us an email expressing his desire to...

by GuestPoster

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The Most Horrific Sentence in the English Language: I Love You, But I Am Not in Love with You.

“I love you, but I am not in love with you” is a catchall phrase that does not force people to look deeper or to find the real problem. By Sarah P. Step right up folks and...

by Sarah P.

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Summary of the 2017 Reader Survey

We’re sure you’re just chomping at the bit to see the results of our most recent annual survey! OK, well maybe not so much. But the results had a few...

by Linda and Doug

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Playing the Double Fool: Mistaking Enabling and Codependence for Lovingkindness

By Sarah P. I do not know what it is about the past couple of months that has turned many normally grounded people into huge fools. But, I have seen it everywhere. I have seen...

by Sarah P.

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