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A Reader Shares Her New Perspective on Her Husband’s Affair

Almost four years ago, one of our readers, “blueskyabove” made a comment on a post that we thought was pretty great.  We wanted to convert it to a post back then, but forgot about it for some reason. Luckily, we ran across it again the other day and decided to share it now.  Better late than never! […]

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What Happens in Couples After Someone Cheats?

What Happens in Couples After Someone Cheats? The Long-Term Impact of Infidelity

So what happens to couples that have experienced infidelity?  Well, relationship expert and therapist Esther Perel kept in contact with many of her past clients to learn more about the long-term impact of infidelity. We thought that what she discovered was quite interesting and we hope that you do too. In short, she discovered three basic […]

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The Most Powerful Technique to Save Your Marriage

There’s hardly a day that goes by that we don’t receive an email from a betrayed spouse who isn’t frustrated, angry, beaten down, out of control and about to give up.  They’re grasping for a way – any way – to help make things better. The reasons are many, but usually their crisis has something to […]

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Your Self-Respect After an Affair

After an affair strikes a relationship it is easy for each partner to lose their self-respect.  In this post, we’d like to use self-respect in the context of a person being able to hold himself/herself in esteem and believing that they are good and worthy of being treated well; having proper respect for oneself and […]

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Mount Infidelity – The Toughest Climb You’ll Ever Do

I realize that it’s very cliché to compare the struggles that go along with affair recovery to climbing a mountain, but after our experience on our vacation we discovered that the comparison to be even more appropriate. While in the White Mountains in New Hampshire we set off on a day-hike called the Franconia Ridge Loop […]

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The Five Phases a Cheater Goes Through After an Affair is Discovered

After an affair is discovered, in most cases a metamorphosis begins for the unfaithful spouse.  Up until that time he/she may have been carrying on as if nothing was going on.  They were stealthy in their ways and they thought they would never get caught. Then it happens. The affair is discovered.  It could have […]

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Finding an Affair Recovery Specialist

Affair Counseling – A Specialized Focus by Tim Tedder, LMHC, NCC  Imagine a man with high blood pressure being hit by a truck while crossing a street. He smashes to the pavement, broken and bloodied, and a nearby doctor rushes to his aid. The doctor quickly assesses the situation and then exclaims, “Man, you’re in […]

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Why Betrayal Makes You Feel Worthless

The other day we received an email from a woman who has been betrayed by her husband of 27 years. His affair was both an EA and PA and not surprisingly it has torn her world apart. Though they’ve been able to “work things out,” the aftereffects of the affair still linger – some minor […]

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Survive and Thrive after Infidelity

We’ve had this blog now for almost five years, and over that period of time we’ve had the honor of communicating with thousands of people who have been affected in some way by infidelity. It just so happens that about 85% of the time it has been with those whose spouse has been unfaithful. In […]

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You Must Stop Being the Victim

We’ve used the word victim a lot on this site; typically with respect to the person who has been betrayed by their partner’s infidelity. We use the term because the betrayed is indeed a victim. If you question that for any reason, then here is the official dictionary definition of victim: a person who suffers […]

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