Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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Today we have a wonderful article from one of our readers, Duane, who is about two years into his affair recovery. In this article, Duane offers his take on what one can expect throughout the affair recovery process as it relates to the 7 Stages of Grief – all based on his own experiences. Elisabeth [...]
The holidays can be a tough time for people who are trying to recover from an affair. The affair triggers can be overwhelming this time of year, especially if your spouse was involved in his/her affair while the holidays were going on in the past – or if he/she is still currently involved. Even if [...]
This last weekend turned out to be a bit stressful for a couple of different reasons. For starters, one of our computers, which contained the majority of our files, crashed due to a virus. Shame on me for being lazy and not backing up on a regular basis. As a result we lost a tremendous [...]
I saw this article recently by relationship expert and author Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A, and I felt many of us could relate to it and that it might offer some good information for those of us trying to regain self-esteem and recover from infidelity. It deals with the challenge from a female point of view, but [...]
“There were never any promises made on my end or hers. She pushed for me to leave and I think that she probably had confidence that I would at some point.” That was Doug’s response last week when he replied to a question from a reader about if he had promised Tanya that he [...]
The following quote is from the book “How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It” by Patricia Love, Ed.D., and Steven Stosny, Ph.D. and I thought that it was very relevant to emotional affair recovery and the situation that Doug and I shared Saturday morning. “Marlene and Mark arrived at their chronic state of [...]
I was mentoring a betrayed spouse the other day and the person asked me if it was worth the effort of working things out or was it time to just give up after her husband’s emotional affair. That’s a very tough question and there certainly isn’t any one answer that fits every situation. Since the [...]
One thing that I learned after I found out about Doug’s emotional infidelity was the importance of backing off. That is, to not pressure him or continually fire questions at him at every opportunity. Now unfortunately, I didn’t figure this out right away, but as soon as I did I discovered how powerful a tactic [...]
Doug asked me to write an article on how I “won” him back after his emotional affair. First of all I want the readers to know that the phrase “win back” does not sit well with me. One reason being Doug is not my possession, he is not a thing and to say I won [...]
I received an email from someone today that brought me back to a time where I was feeling lost, frustrated and didn’t know where to turn. I wanted to help this women and give her to some insight so she would have the strength to survive an affair and save her marriage. During the time [...]
