Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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Throughout the last two years we have preached the importance of working on yourself to become as strong as possible while you are faced with dealing with infidelity – to empower yourself is extremely important. The term empowerment has different meanings in different socio-cultural and political contexts and does not translate easily into all languages. [...]
Recently, we’ve been mentoring and communicating with several betrayed spouses who are going through some difficult times to say the least. Two primary issues are common with almost every case. Either their spouses do not want to let go of their affair partners and are leaving to be with them to see if it was [...]
We hope that everyone has had a nice holiday season. I realize that the holidays can be difficult when trying to recover from an affair. The affair triggers and the thoughts can be overwhelming. The holiday season is a difficult time for me because Doug and I were deeply immersed in the affair process at [...]
Today we have a wonderful article from one of our readers, Duane, who is about two years into his affair recovery. In this article, Duane offers his take on what one can expect throughout the affair recovery process as it relates to the 7 Stages of Grief – all based on his own experiences. Elisabeth [...]
Today we are happy to provide you with a guest post from Tina Greenbaum, LCSW Holistic Psychotherapist and Relationship Coach. She is also the creator of the Couples Survival Toolkit. On Friday of last week, I had the pleasure of speaking on the phone with Tina about her approach to helping individuals and couples who [...]
For the last several weeks I have been observing the comments on this blog made by the betrayed spouses as well as the cheating spouses. I have learned so much from everyone’s insight and felt I should add some observations from my own point of view. I have both read and written many articles about [...]
“There were never any promises made on my end or hers. She pushed for me to leave and I think that she probably had confidence that I would at some point.” That was Doug’s response last week when he replied to a question from a reader about if he had promised Tanya that he [...]
The following quote is from the book “How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It” by Patricia Love, Ed.D., and Steven Stosny, Ph.D. and I thought that it was very relevant to emotional affair recovery and the situation that Doug and I shared Saturday morning. “Marlene and Mark arrived at their chronic state of [...]
I received an email from a reader, Jill, who I have corresponded with previously who recommended a great post from another site about healing after an affair. Her email details some of the issues that most of us betrayed spouses face during our affair recovery – both good and bad. I must warn you that [...]
Last Friday around 3:00 I didn’t feel much like working anymore. I had a busy week and things were winding down so I decided to quit working and do a little research into the readership statistics of this blog. Yes, I know… very exciting stuff! While doing so, it occurred to me that since we [...]
