Looking back on how I handled Doug’s emotional affair, there were certainly a lot of mistakes I made along the way. It was tough to know at the time since so many of my actions were based on trial and error and emotions.
If it’s been a little while since you discovered the affair – or since your affair was discovered – there has to be some things that you did that were not very productive initially.
For example, if you are the betrayed, it could have been the pure rage that you felt that stopped you from moving forward, or perhaps it could have been that you didn’t act forceful enough towards your cheating spouse. If you are a cheater, it could have been that you didn’t disclose the entire truth right off the bat or that you beat yourself up so much with guilt that it held you back from exploring why you did what you did.
This week we want to hear from you about the following:
What was the least productive thing you did after the affair was discovered?
What was the effect on your affair recovery process as a result?
If you could do one thing differently, what would it be?
As always, please reply to one another in the comment section.
Linda & Doug