Yesterday we held some interviews with some wonderful infidelity experts that will be a part of our book on trust, and one of them mentioned that it is vitally important to understand WHY the affair happened. Cheating spouses included!
You may not want (or need) to know the sordid details of the affair itself, but you must understand WHY it happened so that you can heal and move beyond the affair towards saving your marriage.
How important is it to understand why the affair happened to you?
Is knowing WHY more important than knowing the details of the affair?
How has understanding WHY (or not) affected your relationship and your healing from infidelity?
As always, please respond to each other in the comments.
Doug & Linda