Good Wednesday to everyone!
As you read this, we are out in the wilderness for a few days of backpacking with our son. It’s been awhile since we’ve done this so I hope that we make it out of the woods alive!
It was a very last minute decision to head out into the wilds, so as a result of our rushing to get everything together, we decided our discussion this week will be a repeat of sorts from one that we ran over a year ago on dealing with obsessive thoughts.
After finding out about your spouse’s infidelity, you’ve been through a tremendous amount of emotional trauma. It’s been life altering indeed. You will be able to heal from this but it may hard for you to really believe that at this point in time. You may think that you will be forever stuck with the obsessive thoughts of the affair and may never reclaim your peace of mind.
The mind is a powerful thing. After the affair the mind can manipulate your thinking to the point that you can obsess about your spouse’s affair and/or the affair partner. These thoughts and images can be both destructive and controlling. But they are there. And we all need to learn how to deal with them.
With this in mind, here are some questions to consider with respect to dealing with obsessive thoughts after infidelity:
What thoughts of the affair or the other person playing in your mind today?
How would you describe the thoughts and images that have come to you after the affair?
What affect have these obsessive thoughts and images had on your quality of life and ability to move forward?
Have they lessened with time, or strengthened?
Do you feel powerless to control these thoughts?
What, if anything has helped to lessen these thoughts and their control over you?
As always, please respond to each other in the comments.
Linda & Doug[wlsp_signup]