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Enabling and Codependence

Playing the Double Fool: Mistaking Enabling and Codependence for Lovingkindness

By Sarah P. I do not know what it is about the past couple of months that has turned many normally grounded people into huge fools. But, I have seen it everywhere. I have seen well-meaning betrayed spouses/partners responding in the most inappropriate ways to wayward spouses/partners. It seems that a wayward spouses egregious behavior […]

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The Most Powerful Technique to Save Your Marriage

There’s hardly a day that goes by that we don’t receive an email from a betrayed spouse who isn’t frustrated, angry, beaten down, out of control and about to give up.  They’re grasping for a way – any way – to help make things better. The reasons are many, but usually their crisis has something to […]

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Save Your Marriage by Saving Yourself

One of the benefits of this site is to read and learn from the experiences of others who have walked in your shoes. Hopefully, you all read the comments as we feel that that is where some of the best advice can be found. This post addresses how it may be appropriate to work more […]

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Discussion – Our Most Recent Survey Results

A couple of weeks ago we conducted another one of our short surveys asking readers what they were struggling with most right now.  For our discussion this week, we just wanted to go over the results and hopefully generate some discussion amongst everyone about the findings. First of all, consistent with previous surveys, our readers […]

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Marriage Crisis Management – The Ultimate Guide to Surviving the First Few Weeks After D-day

Last week I mentioned that it’s been five years since our D-day.  I think it’s safe to say that most of you are probably not quite that far along.  In fact, many of you just experienced your D-day.  This article is for you guys. I wish that I could tell you everything that you need […]

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There is No Quick Fix to Healing and Recovering from an Affair

A couple of weeks ago our 5-year “anti-versary” (as Doug likes to call it) of D-day came and went.  It was a good day. It was a day that was no different than the previous day.  It was a good day because nothing happened.  No triggers.  No emotional thoughts.  No need to talk about the […]

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Save Your Marriage with a 180

Today we have one of our older posts from nearly 3 years ago on the subject of doing a “180” to help save your marriage and/or get your spouse to end the affair. There isn’t a day that goes by that we don’t get at least one email from a betrayed spouse who is having […]

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Healing After Infidelity – Talk About Things

Note:  This post is an excerpt from our book “Healing from an Affair: A cheater’s guide for helping your spouse heal from your affair” and is directed towards those who have been unfaithful.  Though the unfaithful can obviously be either male or female, this is written from a male cheater’s perspective. Refusing to talk about […]

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Why Cheating Men (and Women) are Assholes and How They Can Become Less of an Asshole

I apologize in advance for my language in this post.  I hope that it isn’t too offensive. After a few years of doing this blog and reading over 16,000 comments, thousands of forum posts, hundreds of survey responses, tons of emails and dozens of mentoring with clients, I’ve come to the conclusion that men are […]

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Discussion – Have You Dished Out Any Tough Love?

There is often a misconception with a victim of infidelity that “If I love them enough, they will come back to me.” This often leads to clingy behavior from the betrayed spouse, which in turn can cause the cheater to move further away. There can be a distance that nothing seems to be able to […]

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