Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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I wanted to continue just a bit from my post from last Thursday. The main theme of that post dealt with the affair addiction and today I’m going to touch on a process for getting the cheater to stay off of their “drug” of choice – their emotional affair. I’m going to refer once again [...]
Recently, we’ve been mentoring and communicating with several betrayed spouses who are going through some difficult times to say the least. Two primary issues are common with almost every case. Either their spouses do not want to let go of their affair partners and are leaving to be with them to see if it was [...]
Last Thursday I wrote a post about how I still felt the pain from the thoughts of why Doug really decided to stay in our marriage. Today I wanted to follow up on that a bit and share with you some wonderful information from one of our favorite authors, Dave Carder. Dave is the author [...]
Here’s one, from the “I can’t believe what I’m reading” file. In the article below, journalist Iris Krasnow promotes cheating as a way to save your marriage. If the author and the few people quoted below were the ones who had to live through the pain that an affair causes then perhaps they would feel [...]
Happy Wednesday! This week’s discussion is going to be geared towards the cheating spouse. One of our readers suggested that it would be helpful for any betrayers who read this site to share their experiences. Specifically as it pertains to the cheating spouse not doing the things that the betrayed spouse wants or needs them [...]
Hello Everybody! Linda and I have read many comments and have mentored several individuals lately where the issue of the cheating spouse not ending the affair is a real ongoing problem. We’re sure that there are many more people that visit this site and other sites that have the same problem but are just not [...]
I have to confess that I’m addicted. To cigars that is. When I take a break from work through out the day, or if I need to gather my thoughts, I’ll go outside and take a few puffs on a cigar. It relaxes and distracts me to the point where I can get back [...]
I am finally convinced that there is little that can be done to stop an affair. I recently came to this conclusion after a comment that Doug made a couple of weeks ago about what pushed him to think about ending his emotional affair. He said that my reaction when I reviewed the phone [...]
Lately I have been putting much thought into my long journey to forgiveness after Doug’s emotional affair, and trying to figure out why it was so difficult to reach. As a result, I began reconstructing our affair recovery and analyzing each step. It is ironic how I can now remember the details and the activities [...]
Many of the recent comments have made mention of the cheating spouse and his/her affair partner having special songs, exchanging sappy emails, special gifts, etc., and to be quite honest (and blunt) I am fed up with all this romantic bulls#!t associated with an affair. I am certainly appreciative of the honesty from everyone, cheating [...]
