Yesterday I took the day off because Doug and I had doctor’s appointments. Since both of us are now 50 years old, we thought it was time for us each to have a physical. Since our appointments weren’t until later in the day and the kids were in school, we were able to spend a rare weekday alone together. It was quite nice!
At one point we started to talk about the direction we wanted to go with this blog. This conversation was motivated by a recent email exchange with one of our readers. It brought up something that we have been thinking about for a while, but now want to try and put into action.
Perhaps you may have noticed that I have somewhat stepped away from the blog lately. I have done so because it was having a negative effect on my emotions and my recovery. There were times when I would read some of the comments and felt like it was happening to me all over again.
I realized this was not very healthy for me and our marriage because I would attack Doug for something that I had previously accepted and forgiven. I feel that in some ways I am stuck in my affair recovery and need to move beyond the place I am currently at.
So, it seems that we are at a bit of a crossroads…
This will be post number 442 in just under two years. This blog has been a lifesaver for me and Doug in so many ways, but I feel that I am beyond the anxiety, pain and emotions associated with a newly discovered affair and in many ways I have closed my mind and heart to those awful feelings.
I really want to move ahead and I feel that by keeping my mind at that beginning stage of healing after an affair has hindered me from doing so. I want to move ahead and completely heal all the wounds that were caused by the affair. I truly want to put it in the past.
Now before you think the worst…no, we are not closing down this site, nor are we going to stop blogging. However, we are wanting to create a better, more advanced program for healing after an affair.
Honestly there really isn’t much out there for couples who have made it 1 to 2 or more years after an affair. There is plenty of information, books and the like for those who are more in the initial stages of recovery, but how do you keep that going, how to you continue to move in a positive direction?
Any Interest in a higher level of healing?
We have actually had an idea for this for some time, but have not acted on it. Before we do, we want to put it out to all of you and get your opinions and level of interest. We don’t want to waste our time if there is no interest.
Here is our idea. It’s nothing brilliant by any means, but I think that it can help those of us that may feel stuck in our healing after an affair.
We would create a member’s area on this site reserved for people who want to try and work more intensely on their healing and recovery.
I’m thinking that the ideal candidate will be folks who are at least several months removed from D-day and have been working hard at recovery, but seem to have hit a wall. We want people who are serious about healing in a constructive, caring and helpful manner. There will be more of an emphasis on repairing, rebuilding and strengthening your relationship.
More than likely, this will not be for those individuals who are experiencing the intense pain, anger and emotions that exist after recently discovering their mate’s affair. For those individuals, the blog will continue to be a valuable resource.
We are thinking that the member’s area will probably include the following:
- A forum for open discussion. It will have strict guidelines and will be monitored closely.
- Monthly webinars or podcasts with relationship professionals, therapists, authors, etc.
- Monthly group question and answer sessions via conference call.
- A library with articles, resources and essential blog posts – both new and old.
- The ability for members to submit their own articles and/or blogs
And since we want to limit the members to only those serious about healing and would be offering additional premium content and experiences, there will be a monthly investment required.
It would be a very minimal monthly investment of just $9.95 to join. Small enough for everyone to afford, but large enough to keep info-seekers, lookie-loos and venomous individuals away.
So we only want to do this if there’s enough interest.
So we want to know . . .
• What do you think?
• Should we do this?
• Would you be interested?
Your feedback and thoughts are extremely important to us.
And we don’t want to even think about doing this unless there’s enough potential interest.
Anyway, if you have a second, please read the statement below and let us know what you think.
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