Good Wednesday to everyone!
Many of our readers in the past have expressed their frustration about their cheating spouse’s unwillingness to discuss the affair details. In fact, it seems that sometimes getting your spouse to open up and talk about anything can be a challenge.
For most betrayed spouses though, it is necessary for them to know certain details so that they can heal, forgive, and hopefully move on to save the marriage and rebuild their relationship.
I found a great letter somewhere online that was written by a betrayed spouse that does a great job of explaining why the affair details are needed and how not knowing them is affecting the betrayed spouse. You can check out the letter by clicking here. (BTW…this is a great letter for a cheater to read.)
So, this week we want to delve into this issue of getting the cheater to talk about the affair details.
Consider the following points for discussion:
Why do you need or want to talk about the affair?
What is it that you are searching for?
What reasons does your spouse give for not wanting to talk about the affair?
How has your spouse’s lack of talking about the affair affected your affair recovery?
We’d also like to hear from those of you who have spouses that have opened up and talked about their affair details.
How did you get them to open up?
What was helpful in promoting effective conversation about the affair?
Has this communication carried over into other areas of your marriage besides the affair?
Finally, we’d love to hear from some wayward spouses to get their point of view.
Why is it so hard to discuss the affair details?
If you have discussed the affair details with your spouse has it been beneficial in the long run?
If you have not, is it causing a stalemate in your spouse’s affair recovery?
Is there anything you can think of that might help in getting a cheater to open up?
Thank you very much for your contributions!
Linda & Doug