Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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Over the past 3 years, I’ve tried my hardest to make amends for my actions that occurred while in my emotional affair. Though I’ve made my share of mistakes, this whole process has opened my eyes to my own faults as a person and has been the most painful learning experience of my life. As [...]
Last week we wrote a post about David Lieberman’s 10 phases of forgiveness and making peace with another. I was particularly interested in phase 7, which is restoring the sense of balance to the relationship after an emotional affair. In this phase, Lieberman states that it’s important for the cheater to let the betrayed know [...]
If you’ve been trying to heal after the affair for any length of time, you have probably said to yourself something along the lines of: “Boy, if I would have known then what I know now, I wouldn’t have made so many mistakes in the past.” I look back at all the things I did [...]
Hello everyone! We hope that your week is going well. Instead of our normal discussion today, we wanted to conduct another quick, 1 question survey. Regardless of how far out you are from discovering your partner’s affair, the ultimate goal is healing and recovery. Basically, getting over the affair and allowing yourself to move on. [...]
The initial conversations after the affair is discovered mainly deal with the cheater justifying why they entered into their affair. The reasons often cited are: “My needs are not being met.” “I found what was missing in our marriage with my affair partner.” Or, the most popular excuse of all…” I love you but I [...]
About a month ago we were fortunate to have a guest post from Tina Greenbaum, LCSW, Holistic Psychotherapist and Relationship Coach. In that post there was mention that she will be joining us for a webinar on Jan 10th. It’s been a while since we’ve done one of these and we’re looking forward to our [...]
We hope that everyone has had a nice holiday season. I realize that the holidays can be difficult when trying to recover from an affair. The affair triggers and the thoughts can be overwhelming. The holiday season is a difficult time for me because Doug and I were deeply immersed in the affair process at [...]
Today we have a wonderful article from one of our readers, Duane, who is about two years into his affair recovery. In this article, Duane offers his take on what one can expect throughout the affair recovery process as it relates to the 7 Stages of Grief – all based on his own experiences. Elisabeth [...]
It’s pretty evident that one of the biggest struggles that our readers are experiencing is rebuilding trust after an affair. If I were to summarize what a betrayed spouse needs for trust to be restored I would have to say that there are basically three things in general: They have to find a way to [...]
This post is going to be geared towards the cheater and healing from an affair. Since most of our readers are the betrayed, you might want to print this off and show it to your cheating spouse. If you are the cheater, consider the points in this post very carefully and take stock in your [...]
