Here are some inspirational, marriage and/or infidelity quotes, sayings and phrases that may have special meaning for you.

marriage and infidelity quotesBy Linda & Doug

About a year ago a reader suggested that it would be a good idea for each of us to share some inspiration.

To share some inspirational, marriage and/or infidelity quotes, sayings and phrases that have special meaning for you.  Perhaps they are sayings that have helped you through difficult times, motivated you or that you simply just enjoy.

It’s been more than a year when we first did this and since older posts tend to get buried, we thought we would once again “collect” some more inspirational goodies from (and for) all of you.

Here are a couple that the reader enjoyed:

  • “Your actions speak so loudly I can’t hear your words.” – from a blog comment 
  • Her husband referring to the affair as the “Road crash now appearing in the rear view mirror.”

Here are some that we found on the web and from the last time we did this:

  • “The cruelest lies are often told in silence.”  –  Robert Louis Stevenson
  • “It takes two people to create a successful relationship.  It only takes one person to make it fail.”  – Unknown
  • “The person you marry, is not the person you divorce.”-  Unknown
  • “Those who are faithless know the pleasures of love; it is the faithful who know love’s tragedies.” – Oscar Wilde
  • “What a kid I got, I told him about the birds and the bees and he told me about the butcher and my wife.” – Rodney Dangerfield
  • “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
  • “So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me… everyday.” – Nicholas Sparks
  • “The unexamined life is not worth living.” – Socrates
  • “Courage: the most important of all the virtues because without courage, you can’t practice any other virtue consistently.” – Maya Angelou
  • “He said the spark between us was gone. So I tasered him. I’ll ask him again when he wakes up.” – Anonymous
See also  Discussion: Negative Feelings Towards the Cheating Spouse

…OK, so that should get us started.

Feel free to share what you like – motivational, inspirational, on love, marriage and infidelity quotes, etc.


Linda & Doug


    23 replies to "More Inspirational, Marriage and Infidelity Quotes"

    • forcryin'outloud

      Education without values, as useful as it is, seems rather to make man a more clever devil. -CS Lewis

      One of my all time favorites.

    • Tryinghard

      “When you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there.”

    • forcryin'outloud

      The liar’s punishment is not in the least that he is not believed, but that he cannot believe anyone else. -George Bernard Shaw

    • Exercisegrace

      The worst thing in the world is to watch someone drown and not be able to convince them they can save themselves by just standing up.

      Not my monkeys, not my circus

      The only regret I have is that I let you change me into someone I never wanted to be. It hurts because I can never get that me back.

    • Gizfield

      Ok, I read a quote years ago that really stuck with me, but I can’t remember it exactly so I’m probably butchering it. Here goes.

      An affair, no matter how fascinating, is never as interesting as any marriage, even the most mundane.

      • exercisegrace

        Amen. Affairs have no depth, no truth and they are not “real” in the truest sense of the word.

    • Lynsey

      “we have to be willing to give up the future we planned in order to have the future that waits for us”.

    • Lynsey

      The quote I just put up on this blog actually was on this website recently and I loved it. Sorry I can;t find the original person from this community who first posted it here, but they should get the credit for finding it.

    • EyesOpened

      Sometimes, you find yourself in the middle of nowhere; And sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself.

    • BeckyB

      A sign over an old friends doorway GODISNOWHERE for me it works both ways as God is no where in cheating ! I know God is now here and has always been here!

      • Strengthrequired

        Becky, sometimes I struggle to believe that god is here. Sometimes I feel like I had been abandoned, because these past few years have been a true nightmare. Yet then I think about it again, and think well I still have my h, and the ow doesn’t.
        So I do tend to agree, god is not at all in an affair. Yet I am thankful, for the days, where I did feel like god was watching over me, giving me strength to keep fighting for my family.
        So Thankyou for the reminder

    • Pippi

      These are both Swedish proverbs:

      “What is hidden in snow, comes forth in the thaw.”

      “The afternoon knows what the morning never suspected.”

    • Gizfield

      “Every single thing you do matters.” — Andy Andrews , The Butterfly Effect

      Not chiefly marriage related but I like it. At first, this was a difficult concept for me. Then, it wasn’t. Basically, what you ARE is shaped by what you DO. All the time, not just selected “important” times. Where you are at any given moment is the culmination of every action you have taken and every choice you have ever made. I saw a show recently about physics and it said you change reality just by being present in a situation. Wow, I thought this was really amazing.

      This made me see my actions in a different light. Even something simple like driving to work “matters”. You affect the entire outcome for yourself and othrs by the choices you make. Did you speed? Run red lights? Text? Talk on the whorephone? you usually get away with these things, but one day your choices might end your life or someone else’s.

      Cheating is another example. All cheaters have made a multitude of choices that landed them exactly where they are. Not one choice or action, but many. They could have altered the outcome at anytime. But they didn’t.

      This is a simple idea and a complex all at the same time. It’s not my intention to make anyone feel bad about their choices but for us to realize that all our actions count and contribute to the people we become.

      Looking back on my own life, I realize the things that affected my life the most weren’t the big important decisions, but rather the small daily actions that led me to where I was at that point. Every single thing you do matters. Even when you think it doesn’t. You choose every second to be a person of virtue, or a fake. Wish I had realized this earlier.

    • Gizfield

      Oh thrill, today we are gathering today to celebrate the Hag in Law’s birthday. People will be in from out of town, we have to go over there. I remember all the years I participated in making sure this passive/agressive old bat had a “special day.” Ugh. No more, it used to be cards and gifts and cakes, lol. I accidentally told my daughter we would take cupcakes. I think I’m gonna pass on that. One of her sons or daughter in law csn pick up that responsibility now.

      She plays the role of Victim pretty well, as does her son, the Cheater. Neither one of them are victims. They are selfish instigators. Sometimes I think it would be a blast to tell everything this jackass has done at one of these family gatherings. After all, it wasn’t “wrong”, so what’s the big deal of keeping his “secrets”? Oh, wait, I guess a married man sneaking around with a whore IS wrong….

      • quistina

        Giz – I love that. It wasn’t “wrong” so why can’t we tell people about it?

    • Saw the Light (formerly Roller Coaster Rider)

      Don’t know if this will be something worthy of quoting, but I can now see God in the affairs…He used them to set me free from over 40 years of relationship with a man who couldn’t stop hiding, couldn’t stop the dance intended to impress others, couldn’t stop blaming me for stuff that wasn’t mine. And it appears He also answered prayers of another man whose wife was a lying cheater, too.This other man prayed, “God, please bring a good woman into my life.” It’s pretty mind-boggling. Pain giving way to joy and possibility.

      • Rachel

        Omg! Saw the light, I just today read about that. Home sick in bed with a terrible cold and depressed about my life.
        For whatever reason I’m feeling jealous of the new and beautiful girlfriend. She’s pretty, I’m lot. She has straight hair, I don’t. I have an natural wave. She’s fit and trim and I hate the gym. I’m not heavy just not “toned” as he would call it. And her skin is always tan . I don’t because of many cancer removals. And her nails are always done. I scrub sinks, floors and garden. It would be a waste.
        I read that God has seen me suffer long enough, it’s time for a change. I firmly believe this. I will say this daily to crawl out of that hole yet again.
        Good luck saw the light, hope you are well.

        • Saw the Light (formerly Roller Coaster Rider)

          Rachel, I am still kind of up and down, but now it’s in a good way. I am negotiating the foundation of a new relationship which has so much potential it at times literally makes my heart sing. The other side of the coin is a lot of fear and need for healing. It will come, and it will come to you, too. Don’t think about the new girlfriend. Knowing your ex, she won’t be his last. And you just keep remembering the solid example of a good woman you are giving your boys, that hung in there and did the right thing no matter how much pain and sorrow she has had to endure. You are a hero! And that makes you ever so much more beautiful!

          • Rachel

            Saw the light,
            Geez I’m glad you responded. Up and down that’s exactly what I do.
            I too am in a new relationship and he treats me like the lady that I am.
            Sometimes well actually most of the time I’m shocked. I was sick all weekend and he texted me constantly to make sure I was ok. He even wanted to bring me to the dr’s today which is 5 minutes down the street and he lives 45 minutes away.
            His ex left him as well after 27 years of marriage.
            Sometimes I feel like we are a couple of misfits. He lifts me up when I am down and I do the same for him.
            The healing part is the toughest. The damage so deep.
            Thank you, saw the light for your kind words.

            • Saw the Light (formerly Roller Coaster Rider)

              Misfits? No, you two are the ones who didn’t lie, cheat, damage families and leave. Sure, you’re not perfect. But why not allow your heart to open to a man who obviously cares about you as a person? My guy has been so solid and consistent, from the beginning, and saw me for who I am. He has demonstrated a ton of patience with my fear and insecurity and attempts to bail. Good things are coming…and face it, Rachel, we will be okay, with or without a relationship with a man. We have learned that we can survive despite the worst crud that can be dished out…Hope you feel lots better today!

            • Rachel

              Thanks saw the light. I guess misfits is kind of harsh. My ex and I and my boys were known as the “Cleaver family”. Haha if they only knew what went on behind closed doors.
              Our “guys” sound very similar. He accepts me exactly how I am. I am putting some weight back on and he thinks I look just fine. He even thinks I have a beautiful neck! I don’t think my ex knew I had a neck!!!!
              Court tomorrow and I hope this will be the last one. I think I will be at a much better place. Those boxes of paper work need to be put in the attic.
              I’m coughing quite a bit and that should irritate the ex. He hated the way I coughed. And my hair I’m going to curl it as much as I can. He hated it curled!!!
              Saw, You seem to be at a good place in your life. Have you been divorced for long? How long were you married? Did you read any self help books to help you?
              Thank you for your response. Your comments are so true and they do help me.

    • Gizfield

      I think my favorite expression I’ve heard on here is “That donkey can’t be unfucked.” Thanks to whoever said it. Trying Hard, maybe? It’s just like a condensed version of everything I think on the topic of adultery. And I laugh my ass off everytime I think of it. just one little five word phrase says it ALL.

    • Strengthrequired

      Giz, I think that is what I might say to my h, well a donkey can’t be untucked, because that is what it is a donkey. Lol

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