You Decide

Darling You’ve Got to Let Me Know: Should I stay or should I go? – You Decide

This is the latest installment of our ‘You Decide’ series where you will provide your opinion on a fictional affair scenario. In this particular scenario, Brandy is blindsided by Mark’s affair and is unsure is she should divorce him or not. Mark and Brandy have been together for twenty years. They have three children: one at […]

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affair speak

Translating Affair Speak – Who Are You and What Have You Done With My Spouse?

By Sarah P. Have you ever noticed that your wayward spouse says some of the most off-the-wall things sometimes? Never in a million years would you have expected some things to come out of the mouth of your dearest and beloved husband or wife. Yet, there you are, standing in disbelief, while your husband/wife is […]

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Open 'Mic'

Open ‘Mic’ Discussion #27

It’s actually been since mid-January that we’ve had an open discussion.  So, we thought it’s a good time for Open Mic #27 !   In case you didn’t know, or are a new reader, this is where you guys call the shots and discuss the topics that you want to discuss. We know there must be some things […]

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the honeymoon phase is coming to an end

Looks Like the Honeymoon Phase is Coming to an End

In case you didn’t know, Linda’s brother had an affair, divorced his wife and married his affair partner. They claimed they were ‘soul mates’ and she made his life wonderful, made him feel young again, yada, yada.  Now we see signs that the honeymoon phase is coming to an end. We only see him and his […]

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talk about infidelity

The Big Five: Gottman’s Communication Techniques to Talk about Infidelity

By Sarah P. It’s almost always a struggle for couples to communicate about topics that matter to one but not the other, especially if this topic references past hurts. Unfortunately, just talking about such heated topics can cause a fight. When marriage becomes one fight after another, most couples withdraw from hot topics. After all, […]

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You Decide

You Decide: Ron and Maria – Living in Affair Limbo

This is the latest installment of our ‘You Decide’ series where you will provide your opinion on a fictional affair scenario. In this particular scenario, we tell the story of Ron and Maria and their all-to-common tale of being in affair limbo. Ron and Maria have been married for 25 years.  Their marriage has always […]

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ADHD Contributed to an Affair

Is It Possible that Adult ADHD Contributed to an Affair?

Why you should ask if adult ADHD may be the elephant in the room. By Melissa Orlov When your partner has an affair, one of your first instincts is to try to figure out what happened.  What led you both to this place?  One possible factor that neither partners, nor therapists, commonly consider is that […]

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musings on infidelity

Musings on Infidelity: Affairs Are Not Original and Not Excusable

By Sarah P. The things that people say and do during affairs are so predictable that it is almost funny. Unfortunately, broken trust, destroyed lives, and broken families are no laughing matter. Still, there are patterns that all affairs follow; there are universal actions on the part of the wayward spouse; and there are the […]

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struggling to heal

Struggling to Heal? You Have to Reach!

  I’m on a quest this year to read as many books as I can.  I’m juggling my reading time somewhere in between my incredibly busy schedule at school and my almost daily caretaking of my aging parents. I am currently finishing up a book by Cheryl Strayed entitled, “Tiny Beautiful Things.”  You may have […]

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what is stonewalling

The Last of the Four Horsemen: Stonewalling

By Sarah P. Not all negative communication patterns are alike. Sorting through the most harmful of these patterns has been one of the main areas of research for Drs. John and Julie Gottman. They have narrowed the four most harmful communication patterns down and refer to these patterns as The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, […]

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