The 2015 Emotional Affair Journey Comprehensive Reader Survey

Every now and then we like to take the pulse of the readers by conducting a reader survey. In fact, it’s been over a year since we’ve taken any surveys and a year and-a-half since we’ve done this comprehensive survey. So…We’d appreciate it very much if you could help us out and take this 38-question […]

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Why Some Betrayed Spouses Have a Hard Time Getting Over an Affair

Do you sometimes feel as though getting over an affair and releasing the anger and hurt is just a dream? We recently came across this article that was written by a former betrayed spouse.  It demonstrates how the wayward and betrayed spouses can have differing perceptions of what the truth actually is, which in turn […]

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Online Affairs – What They Are, How They Start and the Damage They Cause

One thing that we’re somewhat surprised about is the number of people who we communicate with whose spouse has had an online affair. No physical connection whatsoever. And when we say no physical connection, we mean that the affair relationship is carried out completely over the Internet. They almost never meet in person – though […]

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The Cheater’s Behavior Depends on the Betrayed Spouse’s Behavior

A while ago, one of our readers wrote us a comment describing a tactic that was working well for him at the time. As a result of this tactic, his cheating wife started to come back to him and was asking for a “fresh start.” Here is what he had to say… Affairs are treacherous […]

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Open ‘Mic’ Discussion #17

Another month has come and gone.  Looks like Old Man Winter is on his way out and Spring is trying to take over.  So it must be that time again to talk about whatever you want to talk about! This is Open Mic #17 and we know there must be some things that are going […]

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After Infidelity the Only Thing That is For Certain is Uncertainty

As a betrayed spouse, one thing that we crave but is missing after an affair is discovered, is some certainty about the future. The unfaithful spouse who is remorseful and repentant typically desires this as well. Certainty is not typically out there to be had though. Uncertainty can be described as the lack of ability […]

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TV Can be Hazardous to Your Affair Recovery

Watching some television shows, like “Scandal” can be dangerous for your affair recovery. For the last two years during the cold, snowy  winter months here in the Midwest, Linda and I have spent a good deal of time at night parked on our asses in front of the TV and a roaring fire. We have […]

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Can a Trial Separation Actually Save a Marriage?

A separation can often be the result after an affair has been discovered. Though we feel it is possible that being separated while trying to recover can be a good thing in some cases, it can also make it more difficult to save a marriage – unless it is done the right way, that is. […]

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Advice for the Unfaithful – Conquer Your Fight or Flight Response

Do your spouse’s attempts to discover the truth and to understand the affair result in catapulting you into fight or flight mode? And when that happens, do the tables on the conversation get turned around and result in either a massive argument or in one or both of you completely shutting down? If you’re anything […]

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Why Betrayal Makes You Feel Worthless

The other day we received an email from a woman who has been betrayed by her husband of 27 years. His affair was both an EA and PA and not surprisingly it has torn her world apart. Though they’ve been able to “work things out,” the aftereffects of the affair still linger – some minor […]

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