after the emotional affair

After the Emotional Affair – The Path to Introspection (Slightly Updated)

  Self-exploration is very painful, but unless you do that, you will never know who you are and who you want to be.— Iris Apfel Many readers have mentioned that their cheating spouses are not doing what is necessary to help them heal from their emotional or physical affair. The cheater is not working on themselves […]

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what are you thankful for

Discussion – What Are You Thankful For?

For those of us in the United States, this Thursday is Thanksgiving. Each year around this time we like to focus a discussion topic on things that we can be thankful for. We certainly realize that you may be going through some immense pain and suffering right now, but even in the depths of despair that infidelity […]

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infidelity and suicide

Infidelity and Suicide

A few years ago a neighbor of ours husband had an affair.  Long story short, they divorced and now he lives with his affair partner.  In fact, we’re not positive but we think they are now married. Well, the other day we were at a party and our neighbor was there as well.  We got to […]

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husband's affair

A Reader Shares Her New Perspective on Her Husband’s Affair

Almost four years ago, one of our readers, “blueskyabove” made a comment on a post that we thought was pretty great.  We wanted to convert it to a post back then, but forgot about it for some reason. Luckily, we ran across it again the other day and decided to share it now.  Better late than never! […]

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What Happens in Couples After Someone Cheats?

What Happens in Couples After Someone Cheats? The Long-Term Impact of Infidelity

So what happens to couples that have experienced infidelity?  Well, relationship expert and therapist Esther Perel kept in contact with many of her past clients to learn more about the long-term impact of infidelity. We thought that what she discovered was quite interesting and we hope that you do too. In short, she discovered three basic […]

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Backsliding During Reconciliation

Be On the Alert for Backsliding During Reconciliation

After a couple has determined that reconciliation is their goal, they typically work their tails off for months, maybe years, to mend and strengthen their marriage.  They manage to rediscover lost elements of their relationship and they may eventually even get to a point where they feel their marriage is going great – perhaps even […]

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mistakes after infidelity

I Wish I Would Have Known That!

We all make mistakes along our affair recovery journeys, but it sure seems as though the unfaithful spouse is the person making the lion’s share of them.  I made my share of them for sure and I talk with people all the time who communicate to me the mistakes they and their spouse have made […]

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Open ‘Mic’ Discussion #21

It’s been two months since our last open mic discussion – where you guys discuss the topics that are most important to you. This is Open Mic #21 and we know there must be some things that are going on that you can either ask questions about, share your experiences – or maybe just do a […]

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no more lies

No More Lies, Please!

I think it’s safe to say that we all hear of, or come into contact with liars on a daily basis.  Just watch the evening news sometime.  Politicians are lying, Criminals are lying.  Corporate executives are lying.  Super Bowl quarterbacks are lying.  The list is endless. I admit that I used lie all the time.  […]

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ultimatum after an affair

The Ultimatum After an Affair

There is a tendency among the betrayed to walk and talk on eggshells.  They are afraid to say and do things that are going to piss the cheater off and possibly push them further away.  On the surface, it seems like a logical and safe way to handle the situation – whatever it may be.  […]

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