facing the pain of infidelity

Facing the Pain of Infidelity

“We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey.” – Kenji Miyazawa The pain of being betrayed by your spouse is a strong feeling that can be difficult to process.  Why? Because the trauma of the betrayal creates within us many emotions, such as fear, confusion, shame, guilt, anger, and resentment. These […]

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the affair fantasy

The BS Can’t Get Sucked Into the Affair Fantasy

I received an email the other day from a young man I’ve been mentoring for the last few months. I thought it might be helpful, enlightening and inspirational to some of you. A little background first… His fiancé was having an affair with her boss. She was deep in the fog and the affair fantasy. […]

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after my affair

4 Lessons Learned: 20 Years After My Affair

Reflections on what I’ve learned and what I wish I’d known twenty years ago. by Tim Tedder I remember one particular afternoon in college when, for some reason, I became deeply contemplative during a walk from class to my dorm room. My considerations turned to future expectations, imagining what path my life would take. What […]

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trapped in marriage

Discussion – Trapped in Marriage

Let’s face it, many marriages are going to end whether there was an affair or not. However, when divorce seems to be the best alternative due to all of the marital problems, resentments and lack of love, many just can’t seem to be able to go through with it. Divorce is difficult. This is one […]

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the path towards infidelity

The Path Towards Infidelity – Part 2

Last Friday we introduced you to Dr. Robert Navarra and his article, Precursors to Infidelity: The Six Warning Signs.  Today we finish up this 2-part article series by Dr. Navarra where he tells us the final elements that can lead a person down the path towards infidelity. Part 2 of a series on Dr. John […]

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Robert Navarra

The Path that Leads to Infidelity – The 6 Warning Signs

We recently stumbled upon the website of Dr. Robert Navarra, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist and Certified Gottman Trainer.  On his site we found a two part series about the path that leads to infidelity that we wanted to share with you.  Today we will share part one and share the […]

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Open “Mic” Discussion #11

Once again it’s our monthly feature where our discussion is completely open to whatever you want to talk about.   So far these ‘Open Mic’ discussions have been quite popular and for that, we thank you! This is Open Mic #11 and we hope that there are some things that are going on that you can […]

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A Friend’s Fall from Grace

Last night, Linda and I were out at a baseball game and ran into a friend who we haven’t seen in quite a while – maybe 2 or 3 years. We talked for awhile and both of us left the conversation with our jaws hanging. Here’s the story… Our sons played summer travel baseball together […]

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coping with infidelity

Coping with Infidelity – Self-Care and Living for Yourself

A few months ago I was mentoring a younger woman (younger than me at least) and she had recently discovered her husband’s 2-year long physical and emotional affair. Needless to say she was not in a good place at the time. As she told her story it became apparent that the affair was becoming extremely […]

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Discussion – How Do Cheaters Keep Their Affairs a Secret?

The other night we were talking about one of our mentoring clients and the extent to which her husband went to in order to not get caught.  We won’t get into the details but let’s just say he went to a lot of trouble. Eventually though, he slipped up. Most cheaters do. In this case, […]

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