Mentoring

Private Relationship Mentoring for Couples and Individuals Recovering From Affairs

You may be wondering if you or your spouse has had an affair, is there still hope?  The answer is YES!

Or is it even possible to have a happy marriage after an affair? The fact is you can have an even better marriage than you ever imagined possible. We certainly have.

If you’ve had an affair and your spouse says they can never trust you again, is there any hope? Yes, there is.

Miracles can happen and your broken heart can be healed. You can recover from this. We know. We did it.

Perhaps you just need a friendly voice to talk to that has walked in your shoes and has experienced what you are going through.

Have you ever been confused about what to do? When Doug and I began our journey back a couple of years ago, we  journeyed alone without the help of anyone else.  Thinking back, it would have been immensely valuable if we would have had someone mentoring us who could have provided the hope and direction we so desperately needed to successfully move forward. It would have been wonderful to have spoken with someone who had survived and flourished after going through a similar experience.

We believe mentors are a critical part of the healing process. Francis Schaeffer said it this way: “Only the one who has been hurt can bring healing. The other person cannot. It is the one who has been hurt who has to be willing to be hurt again to show love, if there is to be hope that healing will come.”

Doug and I have thought long and hard about offering mentoring services to help people who are suffering from the effects of infidelity.

Our main goal when we started this site was to use our experiences recovering from an affair to help others going through the same thing as we have. Mentoring is another great way to be able to accomplish that goal.

Since many of you have asked for this service, we feel that now is the right time to offer this program to a limited number of people who are trying to recover from infidelity.

About mentoring…

It’s not a quick fix. Experts agree that affair-recovery can take a minimum of two years, though we have seen many couples heal much faster depending on the type of affair they were faced with. Ultimately, it doesn’t really matter how long it takes, but that you get to where you want to go.

An opportunity awaits you. One thing for certain though is that, believe it or not, the affair in your marriage is a great opportunity! It gives you the opportunity to learn about you and your relationships, and ultimately helps move you through the healing process faster. You will never be the same, person and your relationship will never be the same either. In our case, the relationship has become much better, and we each have grown tremendously on an individual basis as well.

Healing from an affair just doesn’t happen! It probably won’t happen if you go it alone. You need input. You need support. You need new information. And, primarily, it is very important to have someone walk along with you, encourage you and show you new roads.

This is where the importance of having your own mentor emerges.

Mentoring starts with you and your situation. You work with us to find the strength and strategies you need to do exactly what is best for you and those closest to you.

Here’s what mentoring can do for you:

1.  Avoid Common Mistakes. When it all comes down to it, it’s not the affair itself that is the most difficult to heal from (and we’re not minimizing how difficult that is in anyway), but it’s all the mistakes couples make after the affair is disclosed that usually causes the greatest damage to the relationship. By getting good help right away you can minimize the damage and begin genuine healing and restoration quickly.

2. Quickly Identify Your Strengths and Challenges as a Couple. It can be extremely encouraging to see what you do have going for you as a couple. Is your marriage one that can/should be saved? It’s also helpful to clearly identify your challenges.

3. Gain Clear Direction. Often couples wonder, are we doing the right things? With a mentor who has gone through the same thing as you have, you can have confidence that the energy you’re putting in is moving your relationship in a forward direction. You’re not wasting your time. You’ll have confidence that you’re on the right track.

4. Understand Both Sides. There are no “bad guys” in our mentoring sessions. Because we thoroughly understand the unique pain and challenges of both sides of the marriage, both the one who had the affair and the one who is betrayed will feel understood. Mentoring avoids bias. We’re on the side of saving your marriage.

5. Identify Hidden Issues. Most couples waste time arguing over surface issues (without realizing it), so they talk in circles, and never really resolve anything. They feel frustrated and often as if they’ve hit a wall they can’t seem to breakthrough. Mentoring can help you identify the “real” issues you and your spouse are hurting over, so you can actually move forward.

6. You will have something to look forward to. Mentoring becomes an oasis in which you are really heard, can talk about your vital concerns and begin to purposefully design your life and relationships. Sometimes too, you just need someone to talk to.

7. Save Time and Agony. It’s understandable to feel that you don’t want to “air your dirty laundry.” Sadly, however, trying to “do it on your own” usually takes longer and is harder than necessary. With specific guidance for your unique challenges, you can heal thoroughly, faster, and it doesn’t have to be that hard.

The Advantages of Mentoring with Linda and/or Doug

We are not therapists nor counselors, but we have personally been through what you are going through and have made the same mistakes along the way.  We have learned a tremendous amount during our journey as well.  Real life practical knowledge that we can pass on.

We have rebuilt our marriage when at one point it seemed hopeless. This gives us genuine compassion for your situation, and what we share is not just theory. We’ve been there. We know. We understand the journey and the difficult emotions associated with an affair.

You may choose to mentor with either  Linda or Doug – or you can choose to have them mentor you together to give you a greater perspective.

Three Different Mentoring Programs to Consider:

Betrayed Spouse Mentoring. If you are a betrayed spouse, you can find comfort in either mentoring with Linda or Doug. Linda has been exactly where you are today. She has had success and she has made mistakes. She can help you with managing the emotions and feelings that you continually experience. Linda has the gift of empathy and understanding of what you are going through and how to get your life back.

Doug can offer mentoring to the betrayed spouse in a different manner – from the perspective of the cheating spouse. He can help you understand what is possibly going through the mind of your cheating spouse and can guide you towards a better understanding of how to approach him/her.

Wayward Spouse Mentoring. This works very similar to the betrayed spouse mentoring but in reverse. Linda can help the cheating spouse get in the mind of the betrayed spouse so that you can better understand why they act the way they do so you can better develop your approach in areas such as forgiveness, trust and honesty.

Doug on the other hand, can guide you based on his own experience – his mistakes and successes. He’s been where you are and understands where you are coming from and knows what it takes to mend a relationship after an affair.

Couples Mentoring. Throw the elements of the previous mentoring types together and you have a comprehensive mentoring experience where the couple can learn together through interaction with both of us.

Two Different Mentoring Options:

Email Mentoring: Here, our mentoring sessions will be conducted via email correspondence.  The benefit is that you can pose your questions, thoughts and discussions at anytime during the day or night.  We will respond within 24 hours to your questions (weekends might take longer).

Tele-Mentoring: Mentoring takes place over the telephone at a pre-determined time in half-hour increments.

You decide how you want to do it.  It’s simple. It’s convenient. It’s easy. It’s confidential. It’s affordable.

Working with Linda and/or Doug as a mentor(s) may help you move through the affair more quickly, avoid the mistakes others make on their own, boost your self-esteem, make you feel better and help you get the life and love relationship you truly want.

Here’s what you do…

1.  Simply click on your desired mentoring option below.

2.  In the secure PayPal form which follows you pay for your spot in our schedule.

3.  Once you complete your order you will be directed to a page where you will enter your contact information. We will then email you back to let you know how to proceed.

4.  If you choose the tele-mentoring option, when booking your appointment be sure and specify whether you desire to see Linda & Doug together or only one or the other. Generally, sessions with Linda and/or joint sessions are available weeknights from 5:30 PM to 9 PM, Eastern time. Doug is available most anytime during the day. If you are only available during the weekends, we can work with you on a case-by-case basis.

Limited Availability

There is only so much time in the day, and we all have other obligations in life to tend to as well. So therefore, there are only 30 spots available for the mentoring program. 15 for Linda and/or joint sessions, and 15 for Doug on his own.

Once we reach the 30 spots per week, we will close down the enrollment and place any other interested people on a waiting list.

Keep in mind that mentoring is for people who are serious about healing from infidelity. We really look forward to working with you and helping guide you in the right direction so that true healing can happen for you!

 Email – $24.95/mo

Telephone Mentoring

Session Options

One half-hour session $30.00 5 half-hour sessions $150.00 10 half-hour sessions $240.00

Our goal is to empower you, point you in the right direction and give you the skills to heal your life and relationship … and to take your marriage to the next level.  We look forward to helping you heal, get beyond the pain, and build a happy life on the other side of the affair.

Best Wishes,

Doug & Linda

Legal Disclaimer: Emotional Affair Journey Mentoring is not counseling, nor is it a substitute for counseling. It is a self-paced, self-directed support resource. Linda and Doug are not counselors or therapists. If you need professional counseling, please seek a licensed professional therapist in your area.

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