You Cheated. You Regret It. But You Have No Idea What to Do Next.
Save the Marriage, Restore the Trust and Earn Forgiveness
You're not alone.
Maybe you still don’t fully understand why you did it. Maybe you’ve apologized a hundred times, and it still feels like nothing helps. Maybe your spouse is spiraling—or stone-cold numb. Maybe you wake up every day afraid it’s too late.
And maybe you’re starting to wonder if you’ll ever stop feeling like the villain.
But here you are. Still here. Still trying. Still searching for something that makes sense of it all—and helps you become someone worth trusting again.
You Don’t Need to Be Saved. You Need a Path Forward.
This isn’t about fixing your spouse. Or performing the "right" apology. Or jumping through hoops to keep the peace.
This is about understanding what really happened—inside you.
Because until you:
- Understand what led you to betray the person you love,
- Learn how to take responsibility without collapsing into shame,
- Know how to respond when your spouse is in pain,
- And start becoming the kind of person you respect...
...you’ll stay stuck. Not just in your marriage, but in yourself.
The Unfaithful Person’s Guide is here to help you change that.
"I just want to thank you for all the amazing guidance and support you share in the wake of an affair and healing. When my husband finally admitted to his affair his instant response was by asking me if I ever thought about what I did to make him do this. I was so distraught that he could even ask me that. The next night I sent him an article you wrote about taking responsibility. The next morning he came to me, sobbing. He stayed up all night, purchased your program and was dying to talk to me. To apologize. To say he was hit in the head with a 2x4 after reading your material. "
Mari
This Guide Was Created for the Person Who’s Starting to Wake Up
You might still get defensive sometimes. You might still catch yourself avoiding or trying to justify. That’s okay. Most people do at first.
This guide isn’t for the person who refuses to look in the mirror. It’s for the person who’s starting to.
This is for you if:
- You know you hurt someone you love and you want to make it right.
- You feel lost in guilt, shame, or numbness—and you’re ready to do the work.
- You’re trying to hold space for your spouse’s pain but don’t know how.
- You want to understand your own behavior so you never repeat it.
If that’s not you yet, that’s okay. Come back when it is.
But if you’re done with the confusion and ready for real clarity—keep reading.
You Don’t Need to Be Saved. You Need a Path Forward.
You made a choice. A painful one. A destructive one.
But underneath that choice were patterns, wounds, unmet needs, and ways of thinking that you probably haven’t fully explored yet.
This guide helps you do that. With zero shame. And total honesty.
You’ll:
- Discover the deeper "why" behind the affair
- Learn to take responsibility without losing yourself
- Get practical tools to rebuild trust and show up differently
- Understand what your spouse really needs from you right now
- Start becoming someone you trust again
This isn’t about groveling. It’s about growing.
What You'll Walk Away With
This isn’t a lecture. It’s a guided transformation. Inside The Unfaithful Person’s Guide, you’ll find:
- Deep self-reflection prompts and mindset shifts
- Real-world tools for responding to triggers and hard conversations
- Empathy-building exercises and communication guidance
- A framework to navigate shame, grief, and emotional overwhelm
- Journals, timelines, disclosure tools, and more
You won’t just understand what went wrong. You’ll learn how to make it right—step by step.
Listen to Doug explain a little of what he experienced.
What It Actually Looks Like to Become Someone Worth Trusting Again
This guide walks you through 24 core tasks — not just to help your spouse heal, but to support your own healing and personal transformation:
- Learn how to navigate painful conversations without shutting down or making it worse
- Create a truthful, compassionate timeline of your affair to restore safety and clarity
- Discover how to take full responsibility without falling into shame or defensiveness
- Develop empathy that goes beyond “I’m sorry”
- Understand your own triggers, reactions, and repair patterns
You’ll also get tools like:
- The Affair Inventory
- Timeline + Disclosure Worksheet
- The Anger Log
- Empathy & Active Listening Exercises
- The 31-Day Gratitude Journal for Relationship Healing
These tools don’t fix everything — but they change everything.
Worried It's Too Late?
That your spouse will never forgive you? That you’ll never forgive yourself? That no matter what you do, it won’t be enough?
We hear that a lot. And here’s the truth: There are no guarantees.
But healing isn’t about promises. It’s about becoming.
You can become someone new. Someone safe. Someone steady. Someone real.
Whether or not your marriage survives, you can. And that’s where your power is.
Today is our 35th wedding anniversary. Our (first) D-Day was exactly 6 months ago. We have been working hard to get it together, and we want to make our marriage work. One of the biggest stumbling blocks has been that I didn’t think my husband could understand the incredible trauma that this has been for me - learning that he was having an emotional affair. He seemed to be getting tired of my repeated questions, my up and down, which was evidenced by him (for the first time, really) telling me to ‘stop wallowing’ and ‘move on with our lives’.
- Peggy
I starting looking around on the internet last week, and found your site. Downloaded a couple of ebooks. I sent him a copy of your Cheater’s Guide, and he told me that as a guy who doesn’t like to read books much, he had to be selective and decide what he was going to read (the 2 books his new therapist had suggested, or the Cheater's Guide I had just sent). Ticked me off to no end that he couldn’t seem to find time …
I pointed out that he was a man who had to make choices, and then I passively-aggressively noted that he had made the choice to spend hours on the phone and texting/emailing “her." I guess he got the picture, and read the Cheater’s Guide on Friday, and it really hit home with him.
He now knows the pain, trauma, and hell I have been going through is real, is normal, and he now understands the extent of it. Thank you for your honestly, candor and straight-forward communication. It has been a real God-send to me over the past couple of days. He says your book will be his guide, and that he plans to re-read it and work through all the exercises.
What You’ll Receive Inside the Program
You’ll get instant access to a complete, honest, and deeply supportive resource designed to help you rebuild from the inside out:
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The Core Manual: Doug’s full guide to the 24 essential tasks of recovery — written from the raw, real experience of someone who’s been there. Includes specific actions, reflection prompts, and mindset shifts.
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Companion Guide (for the Betrayed): A parallel perspective written by Sarah P. that helps betrayed spouses understand what true repair looks like and how to communicate without increasing conflict.
- Inside the Mind of the Unfaithful: A powerful series of conversations and interviews with unfaithful men and women that reveal what’s really going on beneath the surface. You’ll gain honest insight into your own thought patterns, blind spots, and internal conflicts so you can stop repeating them and start understanding yourself more deeply.
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12+ Hours of Audio Insight: Candid, compassionate conversations with therapists, unfaithful spouses, and betrayed partners — all sharing what helped (and what didn’t) in the healing process.
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A Collection of Healing Tools:
Including the Affair Inventory, Timeline & Disclosure Guides, Empathy Exercises, Gratitude Journal, Anger Log, Conflict Resolution Journals, and more — so you’re not left wondering how to show up differently. -
Bonus: 1-Month access to the Affair Recovery Movement Member Area
Access our best recovery programs, tools, recorded coaching calls, and more — to support you through every stage of healing. Note: After the 30-days you'll be charged $30 per month for 12-months. You can cancel at any time
Want to Talk It Through With Someone Who’s Been There?
If you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or just want a real conversation with someone who understands...
Doug offers a limited number of optional 1:1 mentoring calls each week.
He’s not a therapist. He’s not here to judge.
He’s been in your shoes — and he’ll meet you where you are with honesty, experience, and empathy.
Whether you need insight, accountability, or just a safe space to vent, these calls are available to support you.
If You’re Still Reading, You Already Know
You want this. Not just to feel better. But to be better. To move through the shame. To be able to look in the mirror again. To feel proud of the way you showed up, even in the aftermath.
That starts here.
With clarity. With courage. With one small, sacred yes.
This Program Will Help You Shift From Guilt to Growth
- Accept full responsibility for your choices — without collapsing into shame
- Feel genuine remorse, not just regret for getting caught
- Take consistent actions that help rebuild your spouse’s trust
- Develop the patience and empathy to walk beside them through their pain
- Finally understand why you did what you did — and how to change it
- Commit to saving your marriage because you want to, not because you’re scared
- Stop judging your partner’s grief, and start showing up with compassion
- And most of all — You’ll start to feel like the kind of person you want to be.
What Others Are Saying...
I was very moved by the personal touch – hearing a real person, who had made mistakes after affair discovery – the contents spoke to me as a betrayed partner on a more “real” level than any of the affair and psych books have.
Carla
I cried through reading many parts of the book. You hit the things that are most important to me in healing my marriage in a logical manner that was easy to read and easy to put to use. Funny…my marriage coach was just saying the other day that there needs to be a good guidebook for cheaters. He has not been totally satisfied with any. I’m going to send him a copy of your book.
Penny
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✅ Includes everything in the Core Program
✅ 4 private mentoring sessions with Doug
✅ 30 days FREE access to the Affair Recovery Movement
✅ Lifetime money-back guarantee (Core Program only)
"My husband had a year long affair (emotional to physical), and with the help of your outstanding Cheater's Guide program things are a lot better and my husband understands more of what I'm going through."
- Candace
"Both myself and my wife found this very helpful. We had a very positive breakthrough. I got it, thanks to talking with Doug, the audios, the introspection guide, all of it. I was stuck and realized I was the stumbling block for both if us. Now onward and upward from here. Don't know the future yet right now, but healing can proceed...Man, have my eyes and heart been opened!
- Anthony