give thanksFor those of us in the United States, tomorrow is Thanksgiving. Each year around this time we like to focus our discussion topic on things that we can be thankful for.

We certainly realize that you may be going through some immense pain and suffering right now but even in the depths of despair that infidelity can bring, we believe we all can still find reason to give thanks!

Here’s a poem you may have seen before but we like it and wanted to share it once again.

Be Thankful

Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire.

If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don’t know something,

for it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations,

because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge,

because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you’re tired and weary,

because it means you’ve made a difference.

It’s easy to be thankful for the good things.

A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who

are also thankful for the setbacks.

Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive.

Find a way to be thankful for your troubles,

and they can become your blessings.

–Author unknown.


So…what are you thankful for?

Have a very happy and blessed Thanksgiving and while you’re at it, try not to eat too much! By-the-way, we are very thankful for all of you!

See also  Discussion – What Are Your Fears After the Affair?

Linda & Doug


    9 replies to "Open Discussion – What are You Thankful For?"

    • Patsy50

      Happy Thanksgiving, Linda and Doug and to everyone on this site.

      I am very thankful to Linda and Doug for this site, for their valuable information on infidelity.

      I am thankful for family, for they are what truly matters in life.

      I am thankful for my husband,for the good and bad times in our life, for it has made us stronger in many ways.

      • Doug

        Thank you so much Patsy! You have a very nice Turkey day yourself!

    • Lynsey

      This year especially, I am thankful that my 93 year old dad is still able to come to my house for Thanksgiving. I’m thankful that my husband and I are still together, still working on our marriage, and heading in the right direction (with thanks to Doug, Linda, and all the invaluable advice from all the BS’s on this site) I wish you all a very Happy Thanksgiving!

    • tryinghard

      I too am grateful for my family. I am grateful that I have been able to learn and grow through the past year. I am grateful to see all the positive efforts my husband has made in the past couple years and the healing of our marriage. Mostly I am grateful for God’s ever presence in my life. Without His love and grace I would have nothing.

      Happy Thanksgiving to all you wonderful people on this blog that have supported me and let me support you.

    • DJ

      I am grateful that God did not forsake me when I shook my fist at Him after Dday. Everything in my life flows from His grace and His mercy. I live a life, like most Americans, that many people around the world only dream about. My husband and I are still together, and actually making some progress these days. My children are all healthy and doing well in their careers, even if I don’t agree with all of their life choices. I am so very blessed.

      Blessed, too, to have found a community of bloggers here on EAJ who share and support one another. Happy Thanksgiving, Doug and Linda, and to everyone here!

    • Sadsomuch

      I am thankful that I had enough strength to ask my H to leave before his indifference caused me and my children to hate him. I am thankful that even though we are in a lot of pain, that we still want to holidays to be the best possible. I am thankful that I have a great family that will support me and my children through whatever is to come. I am thankful that God is with us because I could never do this alone. I am thankful that my heart is full of sorrow but not hatred. I am thankful that all of you are kind enough to offer a helping hand to someone in need.

      • Blue

        Sadsomuch: I hope that by separating from your husband and his toxic behaviour you will find the strength to move forward in your journey.

        I had a friend that was going through a similar experience as me. My husband stayed and her husband had left. After 6 months after he left, I noticed she seemed to be doing much better than me. She said, although she still struggled at times with sorrow, it was because he was physically gone and with counselling she was able to focus her love and energy on herself and her children. I’m not sure if my husband left if I’d be as strong and brave as her, but she is an inspiration to me.

        Your husband failed you, your marriage and your family for not really trying. You are by far a better person than most for not feeling hate. You are special. I wish you and your children the very best for the future.

        • Sadsomuch

          Thank you so much for the kind words and thoughts. I told my children that we don’t give up on those we love simply because they made a mistake, but we have to give them the opportunity to feel the consequences and try to fix what they did. Time will tell if my H will be able to fix what he so carelessly threw away. 4 females hearts can be tricky to mend (mine and our 3 daughters). But onward and upward.

          • Tryinghard

            I just want you to know I think you have a great attitude. You sound like a lovely, compassionate woman. You are truly inspiring.

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