Once again it’s discussion Wednesday!
I often wonder what does a good, successful marriage look like. I know that during the time I had just found out about Doug’s emotional affair I looked around at our friends, neighbors and acquaintances who I believed had okay marriages and felt that our marriage was similar – or in some ways better than theirs.
I blamed much of our discontent on our life at the time. We were in the middle of tag-team parenting. There was little time or money to enjoy the activities that we used to, while honestly experiencing a different kind of comfortable, committed love.
Foolishly I wasn’t too concerned. I was confident that once this stage of our life was over we would pick up where we left off and sort of begin our marriage again. I felt that we had still so much in common, enjoyed each other’s company and were committed to our marriage that our empty nest would be carefree and fun.
Obviously I was very wrong and stupid to believe that a marriage can go unattended for a period of time without some kind of repercussion. Now that I look back, I know that there were many things that we could have done to strengthen our marriage that would not have taken a great deal of time or effort.
However I wonder what makes a good marriage. What does a successful marriage look like? I am sure that most of us have difficulty finding couples that we can say have the “perfect marriage”.
Also I am sure that those of us who have experienced infidelity are trying to strive for a better marriage, but what does that mean?
In your minds what would be the perfect marriage, and since the infidelity do you feel you are moving toward that goal?
Please be sure to respond to one another in the comments section!
Linda & Doug