As the New Year begins, it’s time for many of us to reflect upon the past and plan for the future. We look at what was both good and bad from 2012, learn from our mistakes and our successes and then develop a plan to hopefully make 2013 a better year.
As we do this reflection, we can usually learn a lot about ourselves.
One of the things that I first learned about affair recovery was the importance of taking care of myself – basically getting strong both emotionally and physically and tending to my most important needs.
Life is filled with times of transitions, times of change, times of trauma, times of death and times of crisis of varying degrees. When confronted with these challenges we can choose to face them head on, or we can turn and run.
These life challenges (including infidelity) can be an impetus for you to evolve and develop into the kind of person you are meant to be and that you truly want to become. And this goes for whether you are the betrayed or the cheater.
With this in mind, and whether you are the betrayed or you are the cheater…
What have you learned about yourself as a result of the affair?
How has the experience changed you?
Please be sure to respond to each other’s comments!
Also, Benny Hsu created a free worksheet that has questions to help you review your year and plan for the next. Download it, print it out and find a quiet time to complete it. Don’t rush through it. These questions will really make you think. Be honest with your answers. These are just for yourself.
Linda & Doug