We have discussed in the past whether or not someone is “once a cheater, always a cheater,” as well as the possibilities that a cheater has some sort of character flaw that was responsible for their infidelity.
This week we want to delve into the notion of whether or not a cheater (or anyone for that matter) can change.
One of our readers writes…
“I have run into conflicting opinions on this subject – some people suggest to me that people cannot change! Some have even suggested that an affair with feelings involved will not ever end until someone initiates a divorce. I, on the other hand, am a forgiving person by nature, a believer in kindness and someone who believes that people can change if they really want to and if they themselves make the decision to do so.”
This leads into our discussion topic for this week. Here are some questions to ponder…
Can we change the personality traits and/or character flaws that were responsible for a cheater’s infidelity?
Are these traits/flaws so engrained and a part of the person that true change will be impossible? Why or why not?
Can we really change the person, or just the underlying causes for the problem behavior?
If changes are made, will they only be temporary in nature?
Remember as always to respond to each other in the comments.
Linda & Doug