One of our long-time readers, Michael, has a blog of his own called “Am I a Good Husband” and he recently wrote a post that I thought was very good.
In the post he presents a great analogy of how sometimes we tend to not take care of our automobiles the way we should until they ultimately break down. Much like how many of us who have struggled with relationship issues haven’t taken care of our relationships properly and eventually they break down as well.
Michael, I hope you don’t mind that I “stole” this from you!
Mechanical Prospective – Is it a Guy Thing?
“A woman goes into an automotive repair shop. She tells the mechanic that she needs help with her car. He asks “What seems to be the problem?” She tells him that it just isn’t running that well anymore. It has problems but she wants to keep it because it has been a good car for a long time.
Not sure of what is wrong, the mechanic asks “What kind of problems is it having?” She tells him it doesn’t want to start most of the time. That when it runs it hesitates, runs roughly, and makes loud noises. She says it has left her stranded a couple of times, and it has left a mess on the driveway.
He then asks her “What do you do as far as routine maintenance for it?” She tells him that sometimes she gets the oil changed when she feels like it or has time. She said that she even rented another car for a while so that her car could have a break and also, she admitted “Because the new car ran great and made her feel wonderful.”
So he asked her “What have you done to make sure your car runs great and will make you feel good?” “We’ll” she says,” I clean the driveway all the time, even when it leaves a mess. I clean the garage all the time so it has a nice place to park. I wash it constantly. I make sure I take it everywhere I want to go. And I just bought new tires for it, but it still doesn’t run right.”
The mechanics says “But you don’t change the oil when it needs to be changed, when it wasn’t running right, you didn’t bring it to me right away to look at it, and the noises you hear are the engine telling you there is a problem. Why did you wait so long to bring it to me?”
She tells him “I have so much to do. I have to work. Get the kids to school. I’m in charge of the soccer league. I have PTA. I had to clean the garage. I have to wash the driveway. I have to wash the car. I thought it would be ok. But now it’s taking up my time by having to bring it here to you. Do you know what kind of inconvenience this is to me?”
I know this seems funny, or absurd, or just plain stupid. But it is the way some handle their relationship. I’m not saying this is my wife but, I’ll tell you that she has said things that sound the same way to me.
Question is, does a little bit of work all the time sound better than major repair later? The more you let you engine go unattended, the more expensive the cost will be later.
Does that make sense to anyone but me? Am I wrong?
Just a mechanics way of looking at it.” See full post here.
I know that in our own relationship, both Linda and I have been guilty in the past of neglecting the little things that keep a relationship strong, while offering up a host of excuses for why we didn’t do this, or didn’t do that.
It’s extremely important that we keep up with the “routine maintenance” in our relationships so that we don’t have a major “repair job” down the road.