I saw this article recently by relationship expert and author Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A, and I felt many of us could relate to it and that it might offer some good information for those of us trying to regain self-esteem and recover from infidelity.
It deals with the challenge from a female point of view, but I’m sure there can be some takeaways for you men out there as well. I’ve included excerpts from the article in the gray boxes and my comments directly below.
Can You Ever Recover From Infidelity?
After our D-day I couldn’t eat or sleep and lost about 20 pounds that I really didn’t need to lose, so I can attest to this completely. I also had a very hard time focusing on my job and spent a great deal of time beating myself up and blaming myself for the emotional affair.
It’s seemed to be a natural response at the time, but as my recovery progressed I learned that beating and blaming myself were quite the wrong thing to do.
I’m not sure I agree with the statement that this only happens to those whose self-esteem is based on factors outside of herself. I know I don’t base my self-worth on things such as money or looks, or social status one bit. I think that I simply was in too much pain.
It always sounds so simple when you read things like this, but I agree that in order for a betrayed to get their self-esteem back and recover from infidelity is indeed through loving and accepting themselves and realize that, yes, they are okay just the way they are – faults and all.