Oh No, It’s Mr. Bill: The Real Life Story of a Sex-Addicted, Narcissistic Man

By Sarah P. Even though this is a post on sex-addiction, this post contains a little bit of everything as well as many mini-stories and anecdotes. In this post, we will take an unflinching look at how sex-addiction plays out in real life. Some of the stories will be sad while others will (hopefully) provide […]

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Open ‘Mic’ Discussion #31 – What’s On Your Mind?

It’s hard to believe that our last Open ‘Mic’ Discussion was all the way back in February. So let’s get to it again! But first… We were contacted a while back by Darylevuanie Johnson,  a licensed professional counselor who helps individuals recover from the impact of infidelity in his practice. At this moment, he is a doctoral student at […]

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Tales of Several Relationships and More Reasons Why You Cannot Make Your Spouse Cheat

By Sarah P. My husband reads the New York Times every night before bed. Sometimes he will find a particular obnoxious article OR a particularly moving article and forward them to me. I read two different accounts in the Modern Love section, one very moving article about the SELFLESSNESS of people with integrity and another […]

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Getting the Affair Details – Maybe Trickle Truth is Best for Everyone

Getting the affair details – as little or as much as the betrayed spouse wants – is vital for healing. Yet, sometimes it works out that getting them gradually over time is best. By “TryingToGetOver” When I joined this forum I was in shock over my husband’s affair. One of the first emails from the […]

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Understanding Gaslighting: A Brand of Jedi Mind Tricks

This article will help you in understanding gaslighting more, as well as how to recognize and respond to it. If your wayward spouse is making you doubt your own sanity, there is a 99% chance he or she is gaslighting you. By Sarah P. While I have written about gaslighting before, I recently had an […]

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But I’m Telling the Truth! – When the Betrayed Spouse Doesn’t Believe the Unfaithful Person Even When They are Telling the Truth

Sometimes when the wayward spouse says, “But I’m telling the truth,” they really are. But it can be hard for them to believed – for good reasons. By  Doug Having mentored quite a few well-meaning wayward spouses lately, I’ve noticed a common frustration that several of them mentioned… Their betrayed spouses (BS) not believing them […]

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Why Affair Sex Matters: An Unflinching Look at Sex and Its Harmful Affects

  This article will take an unflinching look at why extramarital sex is so harmful. By Sarah P. My articles generally favor reconciliation and center around reconciliation topics. This article is different because the topic I will address has nothing to do with reconciliation or divorce. This is not a happy article, but it is […]

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Discussion – The Urge for Revenge

What about the urge for revenge after the affair? For many betrayed spouses, the thought of having a revenge affair of their own is a thought that races through their minds at one time or another. Many have feelings that they want to make their spouse hurt as much as they have been hurt. But […]

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Changing Places: When the Wayward Spouse Identifies as the Victim

It can be almost impossible to  reason with or repair your marriage when the wayward spouse identifies as the victim. By Sarah P. Any of us who have been betrayed spouses know that our wayward spouses do and say some of the most outrageous things we have ever heard or experienced. One of the most […]

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Get in Touch with Your Own Power

It’s imperative that you get in touch with your own power after infidelity strikes. By Linda & Doug We wanted to address a common struggle that many – if not most – of our betrayed readers and members experience at some point in their recovery and healing process.  A loss of control or power of […]

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