Survive and Thrive after Infidelity!

Healing after an Affair & Creating a Marriage that is Beyond Your Imagination

You deserve to have a marriage that doesn’t just survive - it thrives!

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When you first find out that your spouse has had an affair, you are blind-sided, bewildered, confused, and extremely sad.  The pain is unbearable. You feel like someone has ripped the rug from under your feet and you never even saw it coming.

Most of the time, your first instinct is to
try to understand what happened...

In fact…

You probably thought that affairs could happen to other couples but not to you.

After all, your spouse was not ‘the type’ to have an affair and you thought your marriage was going well…

...little did you know that during your spouse’s affair, while he or she was snuggling up to you, there was someone else.

You struggle comprehending the reasons for an affair, but the pain that you feel is even worse.

The pain that you feel is unbearable on your best days and unfathomable and unspeakable on your worst days. You grieve the loss of someone who is still alive; you do not see any way to find closure.

Then, you scour the internet and the library to try to understand the reasons for the affair and to try to get a break from the pain you feel.

You pour through books by famous psychologists, devouring every word—and yet you still come up empty for answers.

After reading 50 books, you feel no better off than when you started because it seems everyone is repeating the same generic message and never getting to the core of the matter.

So where do you turn?  What now?

We're sure we don’t have to sit here and remind you of the immense pain you’ve experienced as the result of your partner’s affair. But suffice to say, it probably is the most painful thing that you have ever had to live through.

We understand that.  We really do because we have lived through it too.

You see, many people who are struggling with recovery from an affair are floundering and have no clue what it takes, what they should or should not be doing, or how best to focus their energies.

That’s understandable and we have to say that we did not know how to either when we were going through this.

It’s hard work. It takes time. But you can survive the affair and have a wonderful marriage if you can manage to do the right things and avoid doing the wrong things.

While it’s true that many couples don’t make it after their marriage is rocked by infidelity, if you have the desire to save your marriage and are willing to give 100% effort, then who is to say that your marriage can’t just survive, but thrive as well.

We’re here to show you the right way so that your marriage doesn’t become some sort of statistic.

We’ve been in your shoes and are in a unique position to put all of our experiences – both good and bad, successes and failures – and use them to help lead you out of the pain and into a better place.

Introducing Survive and Thrive after Infidelity: The Betrayed Spouse Collection

Survive and Thrive after Infidelity is a unique and complete resource that will guide you through the recovery and healing process from D-day and provide you with the knowledge and tools to not only survive the affair, but thrive!

This offering is not your typical “e-book” or how-to guide written by someone with no practical real life experience recovering from infidelity.

It’s a program that is comprised of 8 different learning modules that address all the various aspects of affair recovery and healing and help you avoid the most common pitfalls and pain points that plague most individuals who find themselves in this position.

Here are what the modules are all about...

  • Crisis Management: Surviving the First 30-days after D-day

    Have an understanding of some of the most important rules and strategies for successfully navigating through the initial aftermath of the pain, chaos and confusion that infidelity creates.

  • Processing the Five Stages of Grief after Infidelity

    Learn about the five stages of the grieving process; how to effectively deal with each step in the process; and then how to complete the process with the end result being a newfound sense of emotional freedom.

  • The Journey to Healing: Surviving and Thriving Post D-day

    Be provided with the tools and insight for you to do the difficult work of healing from an affair in an effective and realistic manner. Healing comes when you work with these tools.

  • The Real Journey to Forgiveness: It's For You Not Your Spouse

    Understand the misconceptions about forgiveness that can serve as roadblocks to healing, learn the real scoop on forgiveness, and know how to get rid of lingering feelings in such a way that allows forgiveness to become a healing force in your lives.

  • Journey to Trust: Rebuilding Trust After an Affair

    Understand that trust is not just believing that your spouse will never stray again. It’s also about understanding the affect that mistrust has had on you and your relationship. It’s about learning to trust yourself and your ability to make sound decisions and allowing yourself to trust yourself and your spouse again.

  • Regaining Control: Dealing with Obsessive Thoughts, Triggers and Memories of the Affair

    Take a deep exploration into those destructive thoughts and images of your partner’s affair, what triggers them and learn some sound strategies for dealing with them so that they won’t have as much control over you.

  • Rebuilding Your Self-Esteem: Finding Wholeness Again After Your Partner's Affair

    Understand that the affair was never about you and that the affair does not alter the fact that you are and always will be inherently worthy.

  • Sexuality After the Affair: Restoring and Defining a New Kind of Intimacy

    Learn all aspects of sexuality and intimacy in terms of how it relates to reestablishing a mutual satisfying sex life post affair D-Day.

That’s just a sampling of what’s in store with this program.  There’s a lot more.  To get a better appreciation for what’s inside, let’s take a closer look at what this program is all about.

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What others are saying about the program...

Your new program is a powerful resource and I cannot understate the value of what you have brought to its pages. It has helped me tremendously and has given me better insight and perspective.


This program gives me strength and the realization that it’s ME that has the power. Once again, I feel more grounded. THANK YOU for being here. I honestly don’t know what I would have done without this.



When you purchase Survive and Thrive after Infidelity you're getting over 500 pages of material and about 7-hours of audio jammed with essential advice to help you overcome your most challenging struggles after infidelity, while guiding you towards a relationship that thrives.

Depending on which version of the program you purchase (more on that in a moment), you’ll receive the following:

8 Survive and Thrive Modules

All versions of the program include the 8 affair survival modules mentioned above: a comprehensive 100,000+ word roadmap sculpted to help you navigate the the destructive forces of infidelity starting with D-day. The modules begin with the early stages of discovering the affair and holds your hand through the various elements of healing, forgiveness, trust, self-esteem, and more. (PDF format)

The Audio Version

Enjoy the full 8 modules in audio form. Listen on your mp3 compatible device as you go about your day, in your car or on your computer. If you're the kind of person who learns best while listening to information, then the audio version is  perfect for you.

Supplemental Module Content

Each module comes with one or more additional pieces of content that enhances and compliments  your learning experience for the module.  This material consists of meditations, exercises, guides and audio files addressing essential elements of the process.  They include the following:

  • The Most Common Mistakes Made by Both the Cheater and the Betrayed After the Affair Discovery - a guide
  • Couples Exercises for Forgiveness and Rebuilding Trust
  • Meditations for Alleviating Emotional Pain, Dealing with Obsessive Thoughts and Difficult Emotions
  • The Little Book of Contentment:  A guide to becoming happy with life and who you are, while getting things done - by Leo Babauta
  • Audio recording on Intimacy After Infidelity with Linda, Doug and therapist, Jeff Murrah

The Betrayed Spouse Bonus Pack

This special bonus pack includes a ton of valuable stuff:

  • An extra module, Inside the Mind of the Unfaithful:  Understanding Why Cheaters Do What They Do.  Doug and ex-cheater, Tim answered the top 11 questions betrayed spouses have for the cheater
  • Audio Interview with Mona and Gary Shriver on how they rebuilt trust after Gary's affair
  • Winning Back Your Wayward Spouse by Tim Tedder, LMHC, NCC.  This guide is intended to help you determine the best course of action for encouraging your growth and your spouse's return.
  • Interview with author, Dave Carder, author of the books Torn Asunder and Close Calls a while back about many of the important elements required to restore trust in your relationship. Dave utilizes an interesting and firm approach with his clients that delivers great results.
  • How to Confront a Cheating Spouse - A hard-hitting guide written by a betrayed spouse who has experienced confronting his wife after he discovered her affair.  He shares his advice and guidelines for confronting the unfaithful spouse in a way that produces desired results.
  • And much more...

Lifetime Access to the Affair Recovery Movement Private Members Area

This bonus is lifetime access to The Affair Recovery Movement members area.  A place on our blog reserved for people who desire resources and support as they try and work more intensely on their healing and recovery while building stronger relationships and a stronger self. There are literally hundreds of articles, books, videos and audios in the area, along with a support forum that is safe, private and strictly monitored.  Currently, a lifetime membership is $300.

2 Hours of Telephone Mentoring

You'll also be getting an additional layer of support via 2 one-hour telephone mentoring sessions.
We'll jump on the phone with you to focus on supporting, strengthening, educating and encouraging you.   You'll get an honest point of view that is unbiased, objective, straight-forward and understanding, and we'll work to help find the strength and strategies you need to do exactly what is best for you and those closest to you.  This is based on your priorities, questions and needs - not ours.  A $250 value.

The Cheater's Guide

Discover the 24 “tasks” that a cheater must perform in order for you to heal from an affair.  This popular program details everything the wayward spouse must do to support and nurture your healing efforts.  The program comes in both PDF and audio formats and also includes additional audio interviews, The Anger Log, The Affair Inventory and task handouts to give to the cheater. A $49 value.

That’s a whole lot of stuff!
Are you ready to begin your journey to surviving and thriving?

How ready are you?


Survive and Thrive after Infidelity comes in 3 different bundles – perfect for any budget regardless of where you are currently at in your recovery process.


This bundle is perfect for those who desire the knowledge and tools to give it their all, along with our personal support and that of the Higher Healing community.  You're ultimate desire is to recover and heal from the affair and get the happiness and marriage you deserve.

Survive and Thrive _Ultimate_75

Get Started Now for $297


This bundle is ideal for those who strive to find the sweet spot between value and cost while hunting for a balanced healing roadmap that propels action and progress.

Survive and Thrive _deluxe 75

Get Started Now for $97


This bundle is tailored for the survivor who wants to focus on the basics and build from there without biting off more than he/she can chew and with an eye towards the budget.

Survive and Thrive _basic 75

Get Started Now for $47

"At first I was skeptical that this program would be any different than all the others that are out there these days.  I'm happy to say that I was pleasantly surprised.  The material made me consider things that I hadn't previously and I feel a sense of empowerment that I didn't have before."

- Joanne

"If you haven’t already purchased the Survive and Thrive program available on this site, I urge you to consider it. Linda and Doug’s books enabled me to finally move past the fallout from the affair."

- Pat


We understand that it’s not easy sometimes to make an investment, even one as important as this one.  So we thought we’d remove one from the equation by making our program risk-free.

You can try “Survive and Thrive after Infidelity - the Betrayed Spouse Collection” and if for any reason you are not satisfied with this program, just shoot us an email and we will refund every penny of your purchase.  No time limits. No questions asked. Pretty simple!


Infidelity is the hardest thing you will ever experience in your life. And there’s never been a better resource to help you get through it the right way. So now is the time to take action, but only you can do that.

Choose the option that’s best for you.


Being able to thrive will take time, working through grief, forgiveness and rebuilding trust – and the rest of the process. Healing and thriving is an active process, it is a choice, and best of all, it is in your power.

We are living examples of this. In the beginning we will admit at one time we were convinced that our marriage was over but we were able to turn things around through hard work, knowledge and sheer determination. We are passionate about empowering couples to restore their marriage because if we could do it, you can too.

From our perspective, we created this program because we do not like seeing you suffer. In fact, suffering is needless and your suffering can stop today with the assistance of the tools we have provided in this program. Please learn from our experience since it makes the road much easier.

We've put a lot of work into this program and we hope to hear your success story as you travel your own journey to recovery, healing and thriving.

Best wishes!

Linda & Doug

This program inspired me to look within and grow from this horrible experience. I know it is worth the time and effort spent to better ourselves and our relationships.


I have derived great benefit form this program and I am very grateful for your wisdom, which has helped save my marriage.