This last weekend turned out to be a bit stressful for a couple of different reasons. For starters, one of our computers, which contained the majority of our files, crashed due to a virus. Shame on me for being lazy and not backing up on a regular basis. As a result we lost a tremendous amount of stuff that was on the machine as the computer expert that I took the piece of junk to could not retrieve the information. Lesson well learned. If this has happened to any of you then you probably can feel my pain. (FYI… I found a free back-up service called My PC Backup that I now save all my files online to for safe keeping.)
Secondly, my brother-in-law and his “girlfriend” came to our home for a visit and to celebrate my Father-in-law’s birthday. Nothing dramatic happened by any means, but there sure seemed to be an air of tension filling up our house that day.
Everybody got along fine but I know that Linda doesn’t exactly care for this woman since she is the same woman who was my brother-in-law’s affair partner and ultimately was the main reason for his divorce.
What’s interesting is that she is almost a carbon copy of our ex-sister-in-law – except with different hair color and about 15 years younger. She appears to have many of the same mannerisms, communication style, education, family upbringing and habits (smoker and a somewhat heavy wine drinker). She’s just a new version of the ex-wife.
Much of what comes out of her mouth seems to be disingenuous and nobody in our family trusts her as far as we could throw her. We basically feel that she is a gold-digger and a tramp. Don’t get me wrong, she does come off as being very nice, acts interested in us and is a decent conversationalist, but for some reason it just comes off as being a bit fake. It’s like she’s trying to win us all over.
I imagine that it is very awkward not only for her, but for my brother-in-law as well. He tries so hard to present her in such a favorable way that it borders on being sickening.
We’re coming up on the holiday season and it used to be that we would all get together for Thanksgiving and Christmas with his family and relatives of our ex-sister-in-law. Obviously, that’s not going to happen this year.
Some of his kids are coming from out of town to visit for Thanksgiving while the others spend time with their mother. At Christmas the roles will be reversed and the kids that came to visit us for Thanksgiving will instead spend Christmas with their mother and the kids that were with their mother at Thanksgiving will visit for Christmas.
Nobody really knows for sure if the girlfriend will accompany my brother-in-law to any of the festivities, but if so, it will really be tense. Two of his kids want nothing to do with her and never want to meet her. The others seem a little more open. So what will happen if she does come? I don’t think I want to be around if that happens.
I mentioned to Linda the other night that I wished in some ways our kids were young again so that we can all be wrapped up in the sharing of their kid-like experiences at Christmas time. Instead, it looks like we might be wrapped up in a bunch of drama. And we certainly won’t be together as one big happy family like we used to.
After the holidays I wonder if my brother-in-law will still think it all was worth it!