When infidelity strikes your marriage and you are struggling with forgiving, trusting and healing (among other things), it can be very easy to forget the things that once drew you and your cheating spouse together.
Looking for anything positive in your relationship during this crisis will be a challenge at first, and it can be difficult to get past all of the negativity that is flying around – especially if you’re dealing with the post-traumatic stress of an affair when your emotions are up and down while your thoughts are obsessive.
You are struggling through a very difficult period right now, but beneath the pain of today there must surely be happy memories that you have shared with your spouse, as well as appreciable positive qualities in your spouse – even though he/she has caused you so much pain.
So along those lines, our discussion questions for this week…
Have you been caught up in a web of negative thoughts and feelings about your marriage?
Is it tough for you to think about any of the good in your spouse and in your marriage?
What impact have your thoughts after the affair had on your ability to move forward and feel positive about the future of your marriage?
As always, please respond to others in the comment section.
Linda & Doug