One of our readers (“NotOverIt”) last week suggested that perhaps we should all pitch in with as much advice as possible to come up with a guide book of sorts for newlyweds.
I think the title she suggested for the guide was, “How to Avoid Screwing Up Thirty Years Down the Road.”
I thought it was a cool idea, and besides, it means I didn’t have to come up with a topic this week on my own, so what the heck! Let’s give it a go.
Let’s all try to pick a few nuggets of sage advice for our newly married friends based on your experiences and things you have learned over the years.
I would say that it doesn’t necessarily have to be geared towards infidelity either. It can be about relationships in general, finances, kids, etc.
Here are a few that “NotOverIt” suggested to start things off:
- Talk even when you don’t feel like it
- Never pretend things are all right
- Never do something you don’t feel comfortable doing in front of your spouse
I think we can come up with some really great stuff, and if so, I will compile it all into a nice little booklet. Let’s try to get at least 101 ideas (I think we can get more). That seems to be a magic number for some reason.
And by-the-way, if anyone has an idea for topics they feel would make for a good discussion, feel free to email us with your idea at help[at]emotionalaffair[dot]org
Linda & Doug