Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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If you’ve been trying to heal after the affair for any length of time, you have probably said to yourself something along the lines of: “Boy, if I would have known then what I know now, I wouldn’t have made so many mistakes in the past.” I look back at all the things I did [...]
I wanted to continue just a bit from my post from last Thursday. The main theme of that post dealt with the affair addiction and today I’m going to touch on a process for getting the cheater to stay off of their “drug” of choice – their emotional affair. I’m going to refer once again [...]
Throughout the last two years we have preached the importance of working on yourself to become as strong as possible while you are faced with dealing with infidelity – to empower yourself is extremely important. The term empowerment has different meanings in different socio-cultural and political contexts and does not translate easily into all languages. [...]
We’re not sure that we ever mentioned it previously, but Linda and I share something else in common – birthdays. Well, I fibbed a little there as our birthdays are actually a day apart. When we first met, it was apparent that this was just one more thing that we had in common. This year [...]
Last week I wrote a post about being “too good” and much of the information was based on the book “Too Good for Her Own Good” by Claudia Bepko and Jo-Ann Krestan. As I was reading the book I thought about how my marriage may have been different if I had not followed “the [...]
It’s here! We’re very excited today to share with you our first real e-book, which was written specifically with the Emotional Affair Journey community in mind. The roots of Journey to Trust: Rebuilding Trust After an Affair literally go back several months ago when we decided it was time that someone created a specific [...]
The subject came up the other day from one of our readers about midlife crisis and infidelity. His question specifically asked about statistics on marriage recovery from midlife crisis and whether methods addressed on this blog help with recovery from midlife crisis complicated by an affair. I felt it was an excellent topic and one [...]
So how long does it take to improve a marriage? Many of the marriage resources out there seem to subscribe to the theory that you need an hour or more a day – and then some. But with the busy lives that Doug and I lead, finding an hour a day sometimes seems impossible. [...]
As a betrayed spouse I am going to tell you right now our spouses will never again have a fantasy about us the way they did with the OP during their marital affair. So stop trying to recreate and compete with the affair. It won’t happen. We are living in the real world in a [...]
All affairs begin as a fantasy. During our Affair Recovery Group, Jeff Murrah stated that even one night stands begin with the person thinking (fantasizing) about what it would be like to have a sexual encounter with another person. When the cheater begins either an emotional or physical affair they have ready made assumptions about [...]
