Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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I wanted to continue just a bit from my post from last Thursday. The main theme of that post dealt with the affair addiction and today I’m going to touch on a process for getting the cheater to stay off of their “drug” of choice – their emotional affair. I’m going to refer once again [...]
Doug asked me to write an article on how I “won” him back after his emotional affair. First of all I want the readers to know that the phrase “win back” does not sit well with me. One reason being Doug is not my possession, he is not a thing and to say I won [...]
It has come time that we must leave you. Just for a week or so that is. Our daughters have a national dance competition down in Orlando, so we’re going to head down there for a few days then on to parts further south for some serious beach time. While we are gone, we’re going [...]
Last week we had the unique opportunity to talk with two couples considered to be experts in infidelity and relationships. As a result of our discussions, Doug came up with a post about mistakes that he made after the affair in regards to rebuilding trust. I agree with every mistake that he made and commented [...]
Last week for the Affair Recovery Group we did a session on obsessing about the other person. I admit I am still struggling with this and am often frustrated that I can’t stop. I was not sure why this was still an issue until therapist Jeff Murrah provided some insight that really made me [...]
Just about a year ago I wrote a post entitled “Dealing With Infidelity: My Top 9 Mistakes.” Much has happened in the almost year that I wrote that, and I wanted to revisit this post to update it and add to my list. As you well know, nothing prepares us in advance as to [...]
Last week Linda wrote a post about the stupid things she did during my emotional affair. The post brought some great responses from you guys, some of which were even humorous. In fact, the comments got me thinking that maybe a post about stupid things a cheater does in an affair might be a [...]
I am finally convinced that there is little that can be done to stop an affair. I recently came to this conclusion after a comment that Doug made a couple of weeks ago about what pushed him to think about ending his emotional affair. He said that my reaction when I reviewed the phone [...]
The recent comments about why we tolerate certain behaviors made me think more about why I tolerated so many things following the revelation of Doug’s emotional affair. At the time I really didn’t think that I was tolerating his behavior. I was too emotionally distraught to think about that and I really just believed I [...]
Some of the best information that exists on this site comes from the readers through the comments that they make. I was doing some research yesterday for my book I want to write, and re-read a series of comments related to forgiving infidelity. I thought what this one reader said was wonderful, and thought it [...]
