Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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Over the past 3 years, I’ve tried my hardest to make amends for my actions that occurred while in my emotional affair. Though I’ve made my share of mistakes, this whole process has opened my eyes to my own faults as a person and has been the most painful learning experience of my life. As [...]
Believe or not this is totally uncharacteristic of me to have such negative feelings against another human being. Generally, I try to see the good side in everyone. Realistically, I know I hate the emotional affair more than the person I am attacking, but right now I feel that this is a healthy way to [...]
Doug has said on many occasions that his emotional affair made him feel like a teenager again. I can attest to that because if you look at the characteristics that are common among teenagers you will find the words selfish, irresponsible, immature in their thinking and risk takers. Those characteristics were definitely present during [...]
I’m so glad that we have started the Affair Recovery Group. I have gained so much knowledge and insight from our discussions with Jeff Murrah, that everyday I feel lighter and freer. It’s been another dose of therapy for me on a weekly basis. Recently, we touched upon the bonding experience that is often present [...]
During my last counseling session there was much discussion on how the thoughts of the emotional affair still consume my life. My therapist asked if there was any time that I do not think about the affair, and honestly I couldn’t really recall many times during the day that it doesn’t enter my head. The [...]
Today is the first year anniversary of starting this blog and we thought it would be appropriate to present to you a status update of sorts on our emotional affair recovery over the last year. I’ll warn you in advance that this is a long post, so hit the bathroom, grab a sandwich and something [...]
Linda’s post from yesterday was by coincidence quite timely. I received an email yesterday from a former co-worker that the once-manager of our office was moving out of town, and that they were going to have a going away party for him. Though I’ve known this person for probably 15 years and I like and [...]
A couple of weeks ago Linda was involved in a webinar with Dr. Robert Huizenga, author of “Break Free From the Affair.” Linda was interviewed about her opinions on confronting the other person. In her case she chose not to confront Tanya, and in the interview she explains why. Right click the link for the [...]
I have been struggling with a lot of emotions lately. So many thoughts are going through my head and I am having difficulty sorting everything out. I really don’t know where to turn and what to think. I know that I have been really focusing so much on the emotional affair and on Tanya that [...]
I realized a very important lesson recently and that is because of Doug’s emotional affair I am very vulnerable to having one myself. For two years I have been fantasizing about what his affair was like, and wanting to have the same feelings that he experienced during his affair. I didn’t realize until now how [...]
