Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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Over the past 3 years, I’ve tried my hardest to make amends for my actions that occurred while in my emotional affair. Though I’ve made my share of mistakes, this whole process has opened my eyes to my own faults as a person and has been the most painful learning experience of my life. As [...]
I wanted to continue just a bit from my post from last Thursday. The main theme of that post dealt with the affair addiction and today I’m going to touch on a process for getting the cheater to stay off of their “drug” of choice – their emotional affair. I’m going to refer once again [...]
Throughout the last two years we have preached the importance of working on yourself to become as strong as possible while you are faced with dealing with infidelity – to empower yourself is extremely important. The term empowerment has different meanings in different socio-cultural and political contexts and does not translate easily into all languages. [...]
The initial conversations after the affair is discovered mainly deal with the cheater justifying why they entered into their affair. The reasons often cited are: “My needs are not being met.” “I found what was missing in our marriage with my affair partner.” Or, the most popular excuse of all…” I love you but I [...]
Last Thursday I wrote a post about how I still felt the pain from the thoughts of why Doug really decided to stay in our marriage. Today I wanted to follow up on that a bit and share with you some wonderful information from one of our favorite authors, Dave Carder. Dave is the author [...]
One of our long-time readers, Michael, has a blog of his own called “Am I a Good Husband” and he recently wrote a post that I thought was very good. In the post he presents a great analogy of how sometimes we tend to not take care of our automobiles the way we should until [...]
We picked up a book that was recommended by one of our readers just last week: “How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It” by Patricia Love, Ed.D., and Steven Stosny, Ph.D. It’s a very nice read, by the way, and centers around the premise that love is NOT about better communication, but it’s [...]
My summer of reading continues as I’m currently engrossed in a book that was recommended by a reader called “The Passion Trap” by Dean C. Delis. I found the premise of the book interesting because it discusses the imbalance that often occurs in relationships. I had read about the imbalance in many of the other [...]
Last week I wrote a post about being “too good” and much of the information was based on the book “Too Good for Her Own Good” by Claudia Bepko and Jo-Ann Krestan. As I was reading the book I thought about how my marriage may have been different if I had not followed “the [...]
Sunday night when we were snuggled in bed after another long and busy weekend I declared to Doug that being married isn’t very glamorous. For the last two weekends our lives have revolved around traveling thousands of miles (none of these miles to a any romantic destinations), chores, chores and more chores. This is [...]
