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Brene Brown on forgiveness

Brené Brown on ‘Rumbling with Forgiveness’

School started back up a couple of weeks ago and I’ve been running around all crazy-like ever since.  I made the decision at the end of last year to move to a different grade level, so now I’m teaching first graders again – after about 20 years of teaching third graders. To say this has […]

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apology after the affair

Elements of A Heartfelt Apology after the Affair

It seems that most betrayed spouses never really get a true heartfelt, genuine apology after the affair from the unfaithful spouse.  Sure, they may get the standard “I’m sorry” but it seems as though they usually hear those two words much too often as the cheater continues their lies and poor behavior. This post is […]

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forgiveness and recovery

Forgiveness And Recovery – Intrinsically Linked

By Mel Faith Shame and suffering are linked, as are forgiveness and health. On a purely emotional level, this has been accepted for generations – but psychological science is beginning to prove that the ability to forgive (both others and oneself) can have a profound impact upon one’s health and wellbeing. Shame and guilt are […]

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Feeling guilty

4 Steps for Releasing Guilt and Gaining Forgiveness

Quite often I correspond with betrayed spouses who claim that their spouse is not helping in the healing process because of the guilt that they feel as a result of their affair. This simple 4-step process may help with this issue. While searching for appropriate content for the Higher Healing area the other day, I […]

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forgiveness and recovery

Forgiveness After Infidelity – Reframing the Story that We Tell Ourselves

An extremely important component of forgiveness after infidelity is effectively reframing the story that you tell yourself. This is also related to the concept of self-talk. Each time we witness an event or think a thought, our mind automatically constructs a story around each thought or event. The story that our mind constructs can be […]

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Forgiveness Is the Best Gift You Can Give Yourself

Forgiveness Is the Best Gift You Can Give Yourself

When our spouse betrays us with another person, the sadness, grief, and negativity that we feel threatens to swallow us whole. Even though this is a normal experience, it’s not an experience that we should allow to take over our entire lives. Whether or not we choose to stay with our betraying spouse has nothing […]

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Trust After Infidelity – Rebuilding on What’s Left

For the last few days I’ve been reading a book that was recommended to me called “Let it Go” by T.D. Jakes. The book is primarily about forgiveness, though in one chapter he addresses an issue that always seems to be a struggle for our readers – rebuilding trust after infidelity. One of the points […]

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Letting Go of Resentment

There are many hurdles to cross when trying to recover from an affair.  One of the biggest and most difficult to overcome is the letting go of resentment. What is resentment? My good buddy Wikipedia says that… Resentment (also called ranklement or bitterness) is the experience of a negative emotion (anger or hatred, for instance) […]

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The Cheater Needs to Remember the Emotional Affair Wasn’t So Great After All

Last week we wrote a post about David Lieberman’s 10 phases of forgiveness and making peace with another.  I was particularly interested in phase 7, which is restoring the sense of balance to the relationship after an emotional affair.  In this phase, Lieberman states that it’s important for the cheater to let the betrayed know […]

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Ten Phases to Gain Forgiveness for Infidelity

As usual, I have about four books that I’m simultaneously reading.  One of them, “Make Peace With Anyone” by David J. Lieberman, Ph.D., offers some suggestions regarding forgiveness for infidelity that I wanted to share with you. Dr. Lieberman offers a ten phase approach to gain forgiveness after someone has clearly violated the trust, respect […]

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