Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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I have learned so much from the contributions of the cheating spouses on this site because they have provided insight about their feelings and actions during their marital affairs. One aspect that has intrigued me was how serious an affair relationship can become in a relatively short period of time. One cheater claimed that after [...]
One of the common threads Doug and I see in the emails and comments we receive is the situation where the cheating spouse is unwilling or unable to end the affair with their affair partner. Our friend Dr. Robert Huizenga in his book “Break Free From the Affair” offers some powerful tactics that you might [...]
We had Thanksgiving dinner at my in-laws last week, and my brother-in-law joined us as well. As many of you may recall, he was himself recently embroiled in a physical affair, ended it, and decided to work on his marriage. At one point during the evening, he pulled Linda and me aside to show us [...]
Statistics state that just around 25% of relationships that start as marital affairs will succeed. While I was in my emotional affair, I would have thought that this statistic was a bunch of crap. I would have simply dismissed it while in my “affair fog,” since I felt at the time that my relationship with [...]
As a follow up to yesterday’s discussion topic, and since it’s Thanksgiving here in the U.S., I wanted to change things up a bit. Sometimes we get so caught up in all of our own situations that we forget about all the things we should be thankful for. I found this on the web and [...]
One of the biggest mistakes that I made upon discovery was reading materials about how to have a good marriage. My behaviors at the time were based this information that I had gained, as I tried to do everything a “perfect wife” should do. I didn’t know that it was useless trying to do these [...]
After the recent revelations of several couples we know who are suffering from infidelity, I began to think about if our marriage will ever be safe. Will I ever feel secure that Tanya will never enter our lives again? Willard Harley’s book, “Surviving an Affair” paints a grim picture when he discusses contact after the [...]
We had something interesting happen last week. A representative from Mike Mathis Productions, producers of many reality shows seen on cable networks like TLC and AMC, contacted us asking for our help. It appears they are going to be producing a reality show centered on real life infidelity stories. They are looking for people to [...]
When I first found out about my husband’s emotional affair, I frantically researched books and the internet on surviving infidelity, as I wanted to know what experts said about the chances of it lasting. What I found was that most resources sited only 10% of cheating spouses in affairs move on to long term relationships. [...]
Some of you may have noticed that there were no posts or anything on the site today. Thanks to the wonders of technology, everything vanished for no reason! Also thanks to the wonders of technology, our wonderful host, Hostgator helped me to repair it. Thank you! Today’s post is below. My stroke is over now! [...]
