Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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I’m so glad that we have started the Affair Recovery Group. I have gained so much knowledge and insight from our discussions with Jeff Murrah, that everyday I feel lighter and freer. It’s been another dose of therapy for me on a weekly basis. Recently, we touched upon the bonding experience that is often present [...]
Over the weekend, we were lounging around watching the NFL playoff games, as we are big football fans. During one commercial break there was a spot that featured a man that was professing his distaste for Ashley Madison, which in case you were not aware, is a site much like Match.com or other dating sites, [...]
As all of you know, recovering from an emotional affair takes much strength and patience, as well as having constant conversations in your head. I know that I talk to myself all the time, going back and forth between the reality side and the fantasy side. I have to remind myself about everything I know [...]
Today is the first year anniversary of starting this blog and we thought it would be appropriate to present to you a status update of sorts on our emotional affair recovery over the last year. I’ll warn you in advance that this is a long post, so hit the bathroom, grab a sandwich and something [...]
The other day I was taking my daughters to school, and as usual we were listening to the “Bob and Tom” radio show, and they mentioned a recent study by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. The study said that 20 percent of divorces involve Facebook, and that 80 percent of divorce lawyers reported a [...]
Linda’s post from yesterday was by coincidence quite timely. I received an email yesterday from a former co-worker that the once-manager of our office was moving out of town, and that they were going to have a going away party for him. Though I’ve known this person for probably 15 years and I like and [...]
The other night Doug and I had a conversation about his feelings during his emotional affair. After the conversation I began to think about how he kept these feelings to himself, and wondered how he was able to keep such a secret. It seems to me that when someone falls in love they would want [...]
A couple of weeks ago Linda was involved in a webinar with Dr. Robert Huizenga, author of “Break Free From the Affair.” Linda was interviewed about her opinions on confronting the other person. In her case she chose not to confront Tanya, and in the interview she explains why. Right click the link for the [...]
I have been struggling with a lot of emotions lately. So many thoughts are going through my head and I am having difficulty sorting everything out. I really don’t know where to turn and what to think. I know that I have been really focusing so much on the emotional affair and on Tanya that [...]
I realized a very important lesson recently and that is because of Doug’s emotional affair I am very vulnerable to having one myself. For two years I have been fantasizing about what his affair was like, and wanting to have the same feelings that he experienced during his affair. I didn’t realize until now how [...]
