One of the most pronounced misconceptions about affairs is that they end completely when the spouse finds out. Most people believe when the victim confronts their spouse about having the affair the spouse will admit guilt, promise to never do it again, bow down and kiss their feet, send flowers etc.
Well I can tell you [...]
I am having a difficult time understanding what is so appealing about a marital affair because all I can see is the hurt and devastation. I search daily trying to find something or someone who can articulate it to me. Those involved in the affair appear to have a difficult time with this [...]
Your comments from my post from yesterday were insightful and helped me to make a move in the right direction. I believe that I should personally deal with this emptiness feeling and figure out what is missing in my life after Doug’s emotional affair. I am not looking for a quick solution. I am just [...]
While writing this post my emotions took over and I began to feel the pain of all of this again. I ran up to my little hiding place and had a melt down. It is amazing how all the negative feelings can be released with a good cry. Of course Doug was confused and upset [...]
Last week I responded to a reader with a comment that getting over the fact that Doug couldn’t love me was more painful than the affair, and several people replied, so I felt a need to write a post about my experience.
When I first found out about Doug’s emotional affair he voiced confusion about what [...]
The recent events with my brother, along with digging deeper into Dave Carder’s book, “Torn Asunder,” has again made me think a lot about trying to understand Doug’s emotional affair. I know in many ways I will probably understand it more than Doug does. I think that it was a blur of emotions and mistakes [...]
As you may remember, our 25th anniversary was a couple of days ago, and in celebration of that we are taking off for a few days to enjoy some sun, surf, beer and boats. It’s just the two of us alone for 3 whole days. We can’t tell you the last time that has happened!
It [...]
We received this email the other day from “Debbie” telling an amazing story of her husband’s emotional affair. You’ve got to read this as it tells a familiar tale for many of us, but in a very colorful way. Enjoy:
“(This is the first and only thing I have ever written about my Emotional Affair experience. [...]
I hope everyone had a great Mother’s Day. Mine was wonderful as usual (except during the affair year that is). My family always went the extra mile to show how much they appreciate me. Their tradition always included breakfast in bed, flowers, cards, gifts, a day of family fun and they always made me feel [...]
At some point all of us who are dealing with infidelity have asked the question, “Why did it happen?” Obviously every situation is different and there is no simple answer. Some people are unfaithful for very deep-seated emotional reasons, while others are unfaithful because of their beliefs about the opposite sex. Still others are unfaithful [...]
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