Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
Read More...
Several months ago I wrote a post about the stupid things Doug said while in his emotional affair, and got to thinking that I also did some stupid things. Well, at least some things that sure wasted a lot of my time when I could have been having a pedicure, eating a bowl of [...]
Linda and I have come a long way over the last two and a half years in our emotional affair recovery process. We seem to be doing all the right things. We get along great. We communicate well. She has forgiven herself and me. She trusts herself and she trusts me. But yet every [...]
Last Saturday night Doug and I had a very exciting evening. Our daughters were at a party so we did the grocery shopping, picked up some food to cook when we got home, and then watched a movie on pay-per-view. Yeah I know, you’re thinking that sounds boring as hell. Truth is, it may not [...]
A week or so ago, one of our readers posted a comment where he asked me to list things I thought I knew about Tanya (the OW). How I felt about her in the “affair fog” and facts (character, her history) that I learned about her along the way. The reader also asked me [...]
The recent comments about why we tolerate certain behaviors made me think more about why I tolerated so many things following the revelation of Doug’s emotional affair. At the time I really didn’t think that I was tolerating his behavior. I was too emotionally distraught to think about that and I really just believed I [...]
This is the second post on the subject of tolerating less – both from the cheating spouse, and also in other areas of your life. In the first post we looked at why we tolerate and put up with so much. Now, we begin to look at how we begin the process of tolerating less [...]
One of my favorite infidelity experts is Dr. Robert Huizenga. His book “Break Free From the Affair” was one of the very first books I purchased after discovering Doug’s emotional affair. One of his newsletter articles from a while back came to mind after recently noticing several comments and emails from betrayed spouses that centered [...]
I know that we all are at different stages in the healing process from either an emotional affair or a sexual affair. A common thread that we hear regardless of what stage one is in, is the fear that things will never be the same again in the marriage or relationship. The fact is [...]
Recently, Doug and I recorded a session for the Affair Recovery Group where we wrapped up the topic of forgiveness after the affair by sharing some of our own experiences and opinions with respect to this very important topic. A question came up where I felt compelled to explain my process that I went [...]
We recently purchased the book “First Aid for the Betrayed” by Richard Alan, and the book is somewhat unique in that it describes the pain, emotions and issues in affair recovery from a man’s perspective. One of the sections that we found to be informative was that about the personal issues and obstacles to affair [...]
