Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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Over the past 3 years, I’ve tried my hardest to make amends for my actions that occurred while in my emotional affair. Though I’ve made my share of mistakes, this whole process has opened my eyes to my own faults as a person and has been the most painful learning experience of my life. As [...]
If you’ve been trying to heal after the affair for any length of time, you have probably said to yourself something along the lines of: “Boy, if I would have known then what I know now, I wouldn’t have made so many mistakes in the past.” I look back at all the things I did [...]
It’s pretty evident that one of the biggest struggles that our readers are experiencing is rebuilding trust after an affair. If I were to summarize what a betrayed spouse needs for trust to be restored I would have to say that there are basically three things in general: They have to find a way to [...]
It was a long, tiring holiday weekend for us which culminated in about one hour of sleep last night due to some very late night drama with one of our daughters. Consequently, neither of us had any opportunity to write a post over the weekend, and quite frankly, my brain is mush today and I’m [...]
There are a lot of books about affair recovery, healing and moving on after infidelity, but they all seem to be written for couples who want to stay together after an affair. What if that’s not the case and you decide that you must end your relationship, and move on? Or maybe you have already [...]
It seems that Doug’s emotional affair can pop into my brain even at times when everything is going great. Doug and I spent Saturday at a local blues festival where we sat in the beer garden and listened to some great live music. Everything seemed perfect. We were both having a fantastic time…and then it [...]
Believe or not this is totally uncharacteristic of me to have such negative feelings against another human being. Generally, I try to see the good side in everyone. Realistically, I know I hate the emotional affair more than the person I am attacking, but right now I feel that this is a healthy way to [...]
After a lot of hard work and navigating through loads of technical stuff, we’re happy to let you all know that our new e-book, Journey to Trust: Rebuilding Trust After an Affair is just about ready. We’re just putting the finishing touches on the book and the associated website and at this point we plan [...]
Sunday night when we were snuggled in bed after another long and busy weekend I declared to Doug that being married isn’t very glamorous. For the last two weekends our lives have revolved around traveling thousands of miles (none of these miles to a any romantic destinations), chores, chores and more chores. This is [...]
Just about a year ago I wrote a post entitled “Dealing With Infidelity: My Top 9 Mistakes.” Much has happened in the almost year that I wrote that, and I wanted to revisit this post to update it and add to my list. As you well know, nothing prepares us in advance as to [...]
