Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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It’s the time of year for good cheer, and one aspect of that cheer is the office Christmas party. Apparently, these parties are quite a popular time for workplace infidelity to occur. I’m almost certain that the two biggest reasons for this are the presence of alcohol and the absence of the cheater’s spouse at [...]
This weekend we received an email from a person who has some serious suspicions about her husband and the possibility that he is having an emotional affair with one of his co-workers. She really didn’t have any hard evidence – just a gut feeling. She was questioning whether or not she should confront her husband [...]
Yesterday I went to the library to look for some poolside reading material. I came across “The Script”. The book is written by authors Elizabeth Landers and Vicky Mainzer. The authors who were both divorced from long marriages, discovered the script by listening to hundreds of real-life stories of unfaithful husbands. They conclude that the [...]
We respect very much the work of Dr. Robert Huizenga. His book “Break Free From the Affair” helped a great deal immediately following the discovery of my emotional affair. Just this Tuesday we received his newsletter and I thought the article he included was very good and was worth sharing to you all. We’d [...]
Doug has said on many occasions that his emotional affair made him feel like a teenager again. I can attest to that because if you look at the characteristics that are common among teenagers you will find the words selfish, irresponsible, immature in their thinking and risk takers. Those characteristics were definitely present during [...]
Recently on this blog, we have been discussing the perceptions of the other person from both the eyes of the cheating spouse, and from the eyes of the betrayed spouse. One person suggested that it would be interesting to delve into the common traits that are found in those individuals that have marital affairs. I [...]
The other day I was taking my daughters to school, and as usual we were listening to the “Bob and Tom” radio show, and they mentioned a recent study by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. The study said that 20 percent of divorces involve Facebook, and that 80 percent of divorce lawyers reported a [...]
The other night Doug and I had a conversation about his feelings during his emotional affair. After the conversation I began to think about how he kept these feelings to himself, and wondered how he was able to keep such a secret. It seems to me that when someone falls in love they would want [...]
It’s tough to control your spouse’s behavior, but the last thing you want to do is set yourself up for possible betrayal and the immense pain that an affair can bring. Affair-proof your marriage by making sure you’re attentive, involved and tuned in to your marriage. Do You Think Your Spouse is Having an Affair? [...]
I realized a very important lesson recently and that is because of Doug’s emotional affair I am very vulnerable to having one myself. For two years I have been fantasizing about what his affair was like, and wanting to have the same feelings that he experienced during his affair. I didn’t realize until now how [...]
