Open Discussion: Is a Cheater a Bad Person?

Happy Wednesday! This week’s discussion topic just sort of landed in our lap late yesterday afternoon when a reader asked a question. I thought it might be a good topic to throw out there for discussion. Here it is, short and to the point: Does having an affair make one a bad person? If any […]

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Surviving Infidelity: The Marriage Journal

Many of you are struggling with putting a finger on just what caused your spouse to cheat on you.  After all, you may believe that everything in your marriage was just fine until the affair happened.  If you analyze your marriage over time though, you might be able to determine the underlying circumstances that contributed […]

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Surviving an Affair: Affair Love vs. Married Love

Looking back when I first became suspicious of Doug’s emotional affair I remember Doug trying to convey to me what was missing in our marriage.  He said that he wanted the “in love” feeling, the feeling of excitement and newness like when we first met.  Little did I know that he was describing what he […]

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Recovering From An Affair: Keep the Passion Alive

I have been reading a book by one of my favorite authors called “Passion,” by Barbara de Angelis.  Today I have decided to share an excerpt from the book about keeping the passion of love alive.  Keeping the passion alive is especially important in preventing an affair, but also while recovering from an affair.  This […]

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Save Your Marriage: Building Fences Around Your Relationship

Yesterday I was re-reading a portion of Dr. Frank Gunzburg’s book about how to save your marriage by keeping danger out and love within.  I got to thinking about what Linda and I have done to not only save our marriage, but effectively keeping our love alive and growing our relationship on a regular basis. […]

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Open Discussion: Has Your Views on Commitment Changed?

Happy Wednesday! Let’s get right to the point here. We feel we have an interesting subject for this week’s open discussion: Commitment is the glue that holds two people together through difficult times. Has experiencing an affair changed your views on commitment within your marriage? What enables you to stay the course and not waver […]

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Getting Over an Affair: Stop the Comparisons

My computer crashed July 4th and I had several tabs open for sites that I frequent.  In order to find them again I looked in the history to bring them back up and noticed that there were a couple of sites that had been opened that were Tanya’s –her Facebook  account and her work site.  […]

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Recovering From an Affair: The Promissory Note

Every now and then we get some real gems from you guys in the comment sections that can help others in recovering from an affair, and we feel we just have to share with everyone.  Today we would like to do just that.  Here is a comment left by Jay to our most recent Open […]

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Emotional Affair: Understanding the Phases

The recent events with my brother, along with digging deeper into Dave Carder’s book,  “Torn Asunder,” has again made me think a lot about trying to understand Doug’s emotional affair.  I know in many ways I will probably understand it more than Doug does.  I think that it was a blur of emotions and mistakes […]

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Open Discussion: How Important is Knowing Why?

Happy Wednesday! One of the first questions we ask when we found out our spouse has cheated on us is “Why?” It’s a question that probably eats most of all at the betrayed spouse as they try to wrap their minds around it all. We’ve done a lot of reading on infidelity and there are […]

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