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Having an Affair Within Your Marriage

Most of us who are married come to the point in our relationship where the excitement and satisfaction levels drop off considerably from earlier times in our marriage. It could because of the kids, work or some other aspect of everyday life.  It’s these low-satisfaction levels that can lead a person to having an affair. […]

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Open Discussion: Talking About the Affair

Well, it’s another Wednesday and we have what we think is a good topic for discussion. Many of you have mentioned that getting your spouse to talk about their affair has been a challenge. We wanted to find out more about your motivations to talk about it, as well as what has worked for those […]

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An Affair Hits Close to Home

Yesterday I received some devastating news from my brother.  He told me he had fallen madly in love with someone and was leaving his marriage of 28 years. To anyone this would be earth shattering, but to a survivor of an affair it was even more difficult to handle.  I had the opportunity to talk […]

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Getting Over an Affair: Dealing with Triggers

There is no doubt that getting over an affair is difficult.  Even after the apologies and the forgiveness that follows, it can be a tough thing to live through.  In our situation, what causes the problems most of the time are the “triggers” that Linda sees, hears or thinks about that cause memories to coming […]

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Video: Saying Your Sorry After an Affair

Good Saturday! This week we have posted about forgiving infidelity, and today’s video centers on the other side of the forgiving process, and that is saying you are sorry. The video does not deal specifically with apologizing after an affair, but discusses apologizing in general and why it’s important for the healing process. The guest […]

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Should You Forgive an Affair?

Yesterday our post dealt with how to forgive infidelity.  There were quite a few comments regarding this subject, and we would encourage if you haven’t already done so, to make a comment and throw your 2 cents in.  Some of you have forgiven and have chosen to move on.  Others said they will not forgive.  […]

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Forgiving Infidelity: A Nine Step Approach

During the last several weeks we have noticed through the various emails we receive and the comments to the blog that many of us are struggling with the thought of forgiving infidelity.  After all, a great injustice has occurred to us and we all hurt tremendously.    An all too familiar theme is presented over […]

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Open Discussion: Lessons Learned From the Affair

Good Wednesday! We hope everyone is having a good week. When experiencing an affair-regardless if you are the victim or the betrayer – there are life lessons to be learned. This week’s discussion centers on those lessons. Here is the question for today: From all that you have experienced as a result of the affair, […]

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Rebuilding Your Self-Esteem After the Affair

Experiencing the trauma of an affair can be bad enough to endure, but one of the most devastating aspects of an affair is the effect it can have on your self-esteem.  It can make you feel that you are a terrible, worthless person.  After all, why else would your spouse have an affair and risk […]

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An Amazing Story of a Husband’s Emotional Affair

We received this email the other day from “Debbie” telling an amazing story of her husband’s emotional affair.  You’ve got to read this as it tells a familiar tale for many of us, but in a very colorful way.  Enjoy: “(This is the first and only thing I have ever written about my Emotional Affair […]

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