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Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse Part 2: Contempt

By Sarah P. This blog post is the continuation of a four-part series on Dr. John Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. In the first blog post in this series, I discussed criticism, which was the first of the Four Horsemen. In this post, I will discuss contempt and the role it plays in destroying […]

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Are You Really Ready for Divorce?

Let’s face it.  Not every marriage is going to survive infidelity.  But are you really ready for divorce? It‘s probably impossible to know what percentage  of marriages end in divorce as a result of infidelity.  But based on the reader surveys we’ve conducted over the years, the percentage of divorced and/or separated respondents hovers around […]

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The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse – Part One: Criticism

  By Sarah P. To start off the New Year well, Doug, Linda, and I decided it was time to take a closer look at how to build more successful marriages. As of today, there is no better theory on how to have successful marriages than the theories of Drs. John and Julie Gottman. Often, […]

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Open ‘Mic’ Discussion #26

It’s actually been since early September since we’ve had an open discussion.  So, we thought it’s a good time for Open Mic #26 !   In case you didn’t know, or are a new reader, this is where you guys call the shots and discuss the topics that you want to discuss. We know there must be […]

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The Ache of Affairs and What You Can Do About It

By Sarah P. The one question that people ask after their partner has had an affair is “why?” There are many answers to this question, but not enough information on what to do about it. In this blog post, I will talk about my own answer to the “why” and “what.” But first, let’s define […]

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Resolutions for Affair Recovery

New Year’s Resolutions for Affair Recovery

Happy New Year! Every year we spend a great deal of time during the week between Christmas and New Year’s working on our resolutions for the upcoming new year. This year, we did things a little differently.  This year we set work and personal goals as usual, but only one real resolution – To work […]

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Change Within Before You Can Change Without

By Sarah P. In my last blog we discussed how to stay empowered through the holidays and beyond. The key point of that article was the idea that our thoughts can influence our lives. Because thoughts can influence our lives, these thoughts can cause us to act in ways that create outcomes. In empowered thinking, we […]

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Merry Christmas!

Photo by Forest Wander   My Christmas Wish To YOU By Catherine Pulsifer If I could wish a wish for you, it would be for peace, faith, and happiness not only at Christmas, but for the whole year through! I wish that there always be food on your table. That you always give to those […]

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Discussion: Your Affair Recovery Wishlist for the Holidays

Almost every year about this time we post a discussion about what you want most for the holidays.  And we’re not talking about that new car or diamond bracelet!  Rather, let’s delve into your affair recovery wishlist during the holiday season. The holidays are here  and we’re sure that many of you trying to get […]

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Staying Empowered

You Have the Power – Staying Empowered Through the Holidays and Beyond

Note:  Infidelity is a traumatizing event that often makes the betrayed feel powerless and unable to cope or take action. Often though, a victim mentality becomes the coping mechanism used to survive fear, pain, and to recover basic psychological needs such as safety, love, affection, and self-esteem. This week Sarah P. has crafted a very […]

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