January 2012 Archives - Emotional Affair Journey

The Cheater Needs to Remember the Emotional Affair Wasn’t So Great After All

Posted on 30. Jan, 2012 by Linda.

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Last week we wrote a post about David Lieberman’s 10 phases of forgiveness and making peace with another. I was particularly interested in phase 7, which is restoring the sense of balance to the relationship after an emotional affair. In this phase, Lieberman states that it’s important for the cheater to let the betrayed know [...]

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Ten Phases to Gain Forgiveness for Infidelity

Posted on 26. Jan, 2012 by Linda.

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As usual, I have about four books that I’m simultaneously reading. One of them, “Make Peace With Anyone” by David J. Lieberman, Ph.D., offers some suggestions regarding forgiveness for infidelity that I wanted to share with you. Dr. Lieberman offers a ten phase approach to gain forgiveness after someone has clearly violated the trust, respect [...]

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Discussion – Thoughts on Our Healing From Infidelity Survey

Posted on 25. Jan, 2012 by Doug.

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As our discussion this week we wanted to report back to you the result of our healing from infidelity survey that we conducted the other day. I can’t really say that the results were surprising as it seems that rebuilding trust is always the number one issue that folks have. What was a bit surprising [...]

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After the Affair – Control the Affect of the Cheater’s Choices

Posted on 23. Jan, 2012 by Linda.

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If you’ve been trying to heal after the affair for any length of time, you have probably said to yourself something along the lines of: “Boy, if I would have known then what I know now, I wouldn’t have made so many mistakes in the past.” I look back at all the things I did [...]

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Getting ‘Unhooked’ from the Emotional Affair Addiction

Posted on 19. Jan, 2012 by Doug.

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I wanted to continue just a bit from my post from last Thursday. The main theme of that post dealt with the affair addiction and today I’m going to touch on a process for getting the cheater to stay off of their “drug” of choice – their emotional affair. I’m going to refer once again [...]

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Survey – Healing From Infidelity

Posted on 18. Jan, 2012 by Doug.

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Hello everyone! We hope that your week is going well. Instead of our normal discussion today, we wanted to conduct another quick, 1 question survey. Regardless of how far out you are from discovering your partner’s affair, the ultimate goal is healing and recovery. Basically, getting over the affair and allowing yourself to move on. [...]

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Dealing with Infidelity – Working on You to Empower Yourself

Posted on 16. Jan, 2012 by Linda.

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Throughout the last two years we have preached the importance of working on yourself to become as strong as possible while you are faced with dealing with infidelity – to empower yourself is extremely important. The term empowerment has different meanings in different socio-cultural and political contexts and does not translate easily into all languages. [...]

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Don’t Put Up With the Affair Addiction Anymore

Posted on 12. Jan, 2012 by Doug.

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Recently, we’ve been mentoring and communicating with several betrayed spouses who are going through some difficult times to say the least. Two primary issues are common with almost every case. Either their spouses do not want to let go of their affair partners and are leaving to be with them to see if it was [...]

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Discussion: Should You Tell the Kids About the Affair?

Posted on 11. Jan, 2012 by Doug.

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Good Wednesday to all of you! There’s no question that an affair has life-long effects for all parties involved. The impact can be especially tremendous on the children. As Jeff Murrah, would say, “It’s the hurt that keeps on hurting.” The damage of cheating often goes on through generations. What may have been a one-night [...]

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Unlike Affair Love, Real Love is an Unselfish Conscious Choice

Posted on 09. Jan, 2012 by Linda.

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The initial conversations after the affair is discovered mainly deal with the cheater justifying why they entered into their affair. The reasons often cited are: “My needs are not being met.” “I found what was missing in our marriage with my affair partner.” Or, the most popular excuse of all…” I love you but I [...]