September 2011 Archives - Emotional Affair Journey

Deprivation, Disconnection and Indifference

Posted on 29. Sep, 2011 by Doug.

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We picked up a book that was recommended by one of our readers just last week: “How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It” by Patricia Love, Ed.D., and Steven Stosny, Ph.D. It’s a very nice read, by the way, and centers around the premise that love is NOT about better communication, but it’s [...]

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Discussion: Regaining Your Self-Respect

Posted on 28. Sep, 2011 by Doug.

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Dealing with your spouse’s infidelity has probably resulted in an all out assault on your self-respect, making you lose your sense of self-worth. The flood of emotions that you experience after D-day can be quite overwhelming. The betrayal causes hurt and anger, and sometimes much of that anger points inward – leaving your self-confidence in [...]

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Confronting a Cheater and the Other Person

Posted on 26. Sep, 2011 by Linda.

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This weekend we received an email from a person who has some serious suspicions about her husband and the possibility that he is having an emotional affair with one of his co-workers. She really didn’t have any hard evidence – just a gut feeling. She was questioning whether or not she should confront her husband [...]

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The Perfect Storm

Posted on 22. Sep, 2011 by Doug.

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For the last two weeks there has been a perfect storm of sorts brewing in our household. A perfect storm of emotions for Linda, that is. Monday night that storm finally hit and all hell broke loose. It was like we went back in time three years to when I was involved in my emotional [...]

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Discussion: Can Healing After an Affair Be This Simple?

Posted on 21. Sep, 2011 by Doug.

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Good Wednesday once again! Last week we received a notification via email that a subscriber to our mailing list had decided to unsubscribe. No big deal, as each week people choose to do so for various reasons. In this instance the ex-subscriber also chose to leave a parting message. I immediately thought that his message [...]

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Four Approaches to Forgiving Infidelity

Posted on 19. Sep, 2011 by Doug.

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Forgiving infidelity is a another difficult part of the affair recovery process. In the book “How Can I Forgive You?” by Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D. the author describes four different approaches to forgiveness: Cheap Forgiveness, Refusing to Forgive, Acceptance and Genuine Forgiveness. While the second two are more flexible in nature, according to the author, [...]

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The Four Stages of Healing After an Affair

Posted on 15. Sep, 2011 by Linda.

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I received an email from a reader, Jill, who I have corresponded with previously who recommended a great post from another site about healing after an affair. Her email details some of the issues that most of us betrayed spouses face during our affair recovery – both good and bad. I must warn you that [...]

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Discussion: What Are You Most Fearful Of After the Affair?

Posted on 14. Sep, 2011 by Doug.

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Hello Everyone! Today we’re going to revisit a topic that we have had a couple of times before. Since the readers on this blog tend to “cycle” through, as well as new readers joining in regularly, we thought it would be good to get some different perspectives about what you fear the most after the [...]

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13 Downloads for Affair Recovery

Posted on 12. Sep, 2011 by Doug.

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Last Friday around 3:00 I didn’t feel much like working anymore. I had a busy week and things were winding down so I decided to quit working and do a little research into the readership statistics of this blog. Yes, I know… very exciting stuff! While doing so, it occurred to me that since we [...]

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When Affair Partners Marry: 9 Reasons Why They Might Fail

Posted on 08. Sep, 2011 by Linda.

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In the past we have written about the some of our neighbors who have experienced infidelity in their lives as well as my brother’s situation, and as a result of a neighborhood block party and some time talking with my mother, we were inundated with news of cheaters beginning their new lives with their affair [...]